I feel like my children's caretaker, and I try to be their teacher. I know I'm sometimes a great example, but I'm not running that heart. She is
I can't tell the weather with my boobs, but I totally know that my kid is pooping by the way he is frozen in the corner, hiding behind a bookshelf. It's like I have ESPN or something.
I have been challenged in countless ways during this season of healing, and yet the greatest obstacle of all has been waiting.
I think it is important for parents to understand it is not only the learning disability that causes problems but also the anxiety and paralysis that compounds the learning disability. Acting defiant may be a way of protecting oneself from the fear of failure, and it is good if parents can recognize those signs in their children.
In honor of Dr. Seuss' birthday this week, I've penned my own poem for New Jersey. I've got snow in my shoes, I've got slush in my socks. My car doors won't open, there's ice in the locks.
I am thankful for this landscape and how it restores my humanity. These hikes always put me in a kind and generous mood. I feel a kinship to every person and pooch I see. Appreciation and gratitude can do that. But we take things for granted. And so do our kids.
All of this is why moments of academic achievement in the life of a child categorized as deaf-blind by school districts, a child a kindergarten teacher once called "unteachable" to my face, is worthy of a party.
When you became a parent, you were entrusted with a squishy little bundle of brains, possibilities, and aspirations--and you committed to giving your offspring everything at your disposal and more.
One of Oren's greatest passions was for the words of modern fathers -- regardless of the size of their audience or the strength of their voice -- to be heard. His wife Beth asked me to speak at Oren's funeral, and the flood of words finally came...
There is no word in English or in any language that I've found for parents who bury their children. It is not because the concept does not exist, but rather because such an act is against the natural order of events. It is not supposed to happen.
Life is not and will not be easy all the time. We can wait for it to change or we can take control and move ahead on our own.
It never occurred to me that her little brain was trying to put together the pieces and understand the immense sadness that filled our house. She just didn't have the communication skills.
I won't let anyone make either of my children feel like less than enough, and I won't for a minute buy into the idea that letter grades on a report card are an effective measure of anyone's self-worth. I will fight, I will advocate, and I will shout it from the rooftops!
Whether we realize it or not we are constantly pitching. We are pitching our ideas to colleagues, projects to clients or elevator pitches to others at networking events. How do you speak so people will listen?
Being a two-dad family, it was a little annoying to see yet one more thing that made us feel invisible. However, we were still jumping through hoops to complete our adoption, and advocating in our home state to legalize same-sex marriage. We had more important battles to wage.
Even if your child's fears seem unreasonable to you, you can help them feel more safe -- emotionally safe -- by not challenging the fact that they are afraid.