Middle school is a treacherous time for kids, but I didn't anticipate how tough it would be for a parent. I didn't expect to relive that time again so painfully as a mother, nor did I anticipate that the parental remove can bring not only perspective, but also extra heartache.
I stopped setting the finish line so far out of reach and instead set it for the end of each and every day.
When I asked him how he was able to rebound, he simply said that he noticed himself slipping and didn't like it. So he decided to change. He was only in 4th grade! No therapy, no coaches, no self help books, no medication. He just decided to change and did the work to make it happen.
Change is hard. It can hurt. You could say the same for motherhood. Finding the right parenting strategies so you don't end up in tears has no global solution.
Notes come home from school reminding me to pack a snack for my child. Sign-up sheets for snack rotations are circulated for team sports. A two-hour swim at the pool with friends includes crackers, two kinds of fruit, pizza, cupcakes and two kinds of beverages (I am not exaggerating.)
Pregnancy can be an isolating experience, if only because it's your own. No one can know how you feel, because they aren't you. And you have no idea how to feel, because it's not something you've ever done before. Every day, every feeling, is new.
I've been waiting a lifetime for a film like Black or White. Growing up biracial in the mid-70s and late 80's, I wondered when I would get to see myself up there on the big screen too. Where were the blended interracial families like mine?
Daughter, when you feel surrounded by darkness, it's tempting to think you're meant to be dark, too. You might ask, "If others aren't beaming in this way, surely I'm not meant to; and surely I'm not capable of bringing light, right?"
Do you feel like a broken record -- repeating the same instruction to your child over and over? Not sure whether to book them a hearing test or sign yourself into the looney bin?
I can give lots of reasons to pack up all the gear and invest in a family holiday -- phrases such as global citizen, cultural tolerance and lifelong shared memories come to mind.
Some of you will mention you have never had to deal with a difficult first post-labor poop. For some reason or another, you were blessed with amazing bowels or a body that takes labor and delivery like a Duggar. My sincerest congratulations. You dodged a bullet. You are dismissed.
Driven by the synergy of technological advancements and instructional innovations, simulations are rapidly gaining importance in the classroom in tech-savvy nations as robust add-ons, either as a supplement to traditional teaching methods or as a substitute for sections of the curriculum.
I don't see his homework every night, I only hope he's using the washing machine once in awhile and I have to trust that he's eating his vegetables every day.
Anxiety is like a bell curve, peaking and decreasing over a matter of minutes, but people don't realize this, because they usually don't stay in anxiety-provoking situations long enough to see that eventually, their anxiety will go down.
We learn to choose love, grace, and forgiveness from receiving the painful slap of the alternative, and sometimes from delivering that slap, and experiencing firsthand the painful taste it leaves in our hearts.
Some parents celebrate their children's growth using hash marks on a door frame. Others marvel -- or weep -- at the increasing heft and strength of their little one each time he or she leaps into their arms. I celebrate my children's growth every time I get to throw something out.