It happens every Friday between 9:00 and 10:00 a.m. And if I sigh a little, I try to remember where I came from. Another time.
It takes a lot of courage to believe in ourselves when people want us to change so that they can feel better. We need to keep reminding ourselves that we're all right just as we are -- because we've decided it and we're not letting anyone else make that decision for us anymore.
The following is the transcript of how I would imagine the conversation between me and my son would unfold. Feel free to use it as a template for discussing these issues with your own children.
My wife and enjoy our time with our kids, but not all of our time, especially when we're traveling. Having the kids in school allows us to do some stress-free sightseeing, go for longer walks, exercise, and rest.
With all of our growing to do lists, we have a diminished living. We no longer can simply be. We are fearful of being judged of laziness, that taking the few moments to rest, the few minutes to enjoy, the time to be will be a direct correlation to our lacking work ethic.
Sometimes it's hard to make yourself go, there are so many reasons for you to say no. The babies will miss me, they will get hurt. They will end up rolling in a pile of dirt.
This morning I ran into a sad friend. She'd spent the previous evening with a couple of fabulous couples, all strappy sandals and flowery dresses and lively stories about lovely children. Their fabulousness all seemed so effortless, my friend said.
Summer is wonderful. But, the start of school for kids brings new beginnings for moms as well. It's the perfect time for them to focus on their own wellbeing and have courageous conversations about what they need to feel inspired and fulfilled.
Life has always been about fear, it's just that adults tend to forget what we went through and want to protect the current generation from what they're experiencing. The reality is: the children of today will survive the pressures of fear just as my generation did, just as every generation has.
Two kindergartners were sent to the principal's office during their second week of school. One hit a little girl after she refused to share a toy. The other smacked a little boy after he cut to the front in the lunch line.
False claims and inaccurate statistics about modern families abound. Many of these focus on dads, the most misunderstood part of the modern family. Mainstream media is filled with headlines and references to surveys that get fathers completely wrong.
By loving our kids, and loving them unconditionally, we're giving them an enormous advantage. That love is a private gift that stands entirely outside of money, position and power.
When I think about 9/11, I remember the fliers. Thousands of fliers fluttering in the ash-coated breeze during the long nights and days and weeks after the dust had settled but the devastation was still settling in.
You as a parent always have an edge in evaluating your own child because you hold the key to his history. The important thing to remember is to be objective through empathy, and to not use defense which can cause projection to influence your objectivity through projection.
Affluenza comes from a culture that defines more as better and most as best. It comes from a culture that views acquiring possessions as a national pastime -- an end to itself. Our closets are packed, are drawers are overflowing, our cabinets filled to capacity.
As I watch them navigate these years, I remember every single emotion each of my children is feeling at any given moment, because I felt every single one when I was their age. And I wish to God I could make it easier for them with what I've learned since.