Truth: Your loss will transform you. This is the experience, and it is what it is. The transformation is often for the better. Not always, but usually -- especially if we find ways to get out of our own way.
I'm practicing to be a Tibetan nun, but lately I've been wondering if I need hair extensions and Botox. Tibetan nuns probably don't think a lot about hair extensions and Botox, which doesn't say a lot about my chances of becoming a Tibetan nun.
Scientific research indicates that meditation practice can actually change our brain structure to ameliorate reactivity. But meditation is just one tool for what, at the extreme, is known as impulse control disorder.
I suspect, though, that a lot of people go simply because it's beautifully designed, run, and people are nice to them. And, come on, isn't that how the whole world should be: well-designed, well-run, with people nice to each other?
To "not seek" is to evolve without intention, without conscious direction stemming from an awakening heart; while "to seek" is a never-ending process of investigation -- to refine discernment and strengthen direction.
I accidentally deleted over 13,000 messages from my email account and didn't flinch. Well, almost. There was a feeling of panic, but it was followed by a Zen-like calm. Had I effectively erased the past?
In order to get unstuck, we need to understand that there are perceptions, judgments and opinions that occur so quickly beneath our awareness that we get stuck before we even notice any thoughts arise.
We mood-alter with substances (alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, etc.) and activities (shopping, gambling, sex, work etc.) We are unable to simply be awake and present to life -- so we medicate our existential anxiety.
I grew up knowing Pema Chodron (the second most popular Buddhist in America, after that Dalai Lama guy). Or, rather, she knew me (I was just a little kid running around not paying attention to anything).
Get thee to an eco meditation cushion, if only for a few minutes each morning before the day's madness ensues, and if you need a jump-start of inspiration or a little training, check out one of these Buddhist teachers.