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People Pleaser

Why It Doesn't Pay To Be A People-Pleaser

Greater Good Science Center | Posted 09.06.2016 | Healthy Living
Greater Good Science Center

Being out of integrity has pretty serious consequences for our happiness, and for our relationships. Here's what happens when we aren't being authentic.

7 Comics That Nail Just What It Feels Like To Be A People-Pleaser

Sarah Cooper | Posted 08.16.2016 | Healthy Living
Sarah Cooper

If you want to get better at pleasing people, check out these people-pleasing tips and learn how to get the least out of your life. #1 Always seem hap...

How to Stop People-Pleasing

Jen Smith | Posted 05.25.2016 | Healthy Living
Jen Smith

Are you a People-Pleaser? Are you someone who always puts other peoples' feelings above your own or someone who makes the pursuit of other peoples hap...

You Only Need Your Own Approval

Kristen Brown | Posted 05.10.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Kristen Brown

Each one of us comes here with a purpose -- a divine purpose to shine our light in the world. To be all that we are meant to be and live a purpose driven, love-centered life. It starts with accepting and loving all that you innately are by sharing your genuine self with the world no matter what others think.

How to Overcome the Fear of 'What Will People Think'

Oby Bamidele | Posted 03.30.2016 | Women
Oby Bamidele

If there is one phrase that really bothers me no end, it is the words "What will people think." I heard those words a lot growing up and even as a teenager it didn't sound right or fair that everything I did depended on what people would think.

This Is How To Stop Being A People Pleaser

Amy Selwyn | Posted 03.25.2016 | Fifty
Amy Selwyn

Growing up in the 1960s, the discipline my parents meted out was cerebral rather than physical. If I became too demanding or too agitated, either my mother or my father would admonish me, mid-tantrum, using a quietly powerful string of words: 'Stop being so selfish,' they would say.

How To Stop Being A People Pleaser -- Today

Honey Good | Posted 01.21.2016 | Fifty
Honey Good

What people pleasers should realize is that they face serious risks. They overcommit their time which creates emotional anxiety. People pleasers feel they have not been true to their feelings and then they become angry with themselves which creates internal stress.

5 Signs You're a People Pleaser

Lara Young | Posted 10.20.2016 | Women
Lara Young

You've probably suspected for a while that you're a People Pleaser. Every time you go out with that friend you no longer really want to keep in touch with. Or every time you agree to babysit your cousin's dog (even though you're not much of a fur-lover yourself). Or whatever this scenario involves for you.

6 Ways To Love Your Life More

Grace Bluerock | Posted 10.19.2016 | Healthy Living
Grace Bluerock

When you truly love your life, you can't help but be happier and experience a greater sense of fulfillment, meaning, and purpose. Polish-born American classical pianist, Arthur Rubinstein was right when he said, "I have found that if you love life, life will love you back."

What Every People Pleaser Needs to Realize About Themselves

Jennifer Twardowski | Posted 09.14.2016 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Twardowski

So what can us people pleasers do about this, you ask? Well, there are a few things...

Why It's OK to Be the Bad Guy

Kara Post-Kennedy | Posted 05.18.2016 | Parents
Kara Post-Kennedy

We teach our kids to share, especially with children who may have less than they do. We teach our kids to cooperate and compromise, especially if they have a tendency to bully for their own way.

How To Reinvent Yourself With Confidence

Lori Osterberg | Posted 05.13.2016 | Women
Lori Osterberg

Confidence gives you a reason to be more comfortable in your own skin, and to do the things that are best for you. And the better you get, the more you have to give.

You Can Be the Pioneer Domino: The Perceived Heaviness of Ease (and How to Lift It)

Miriam Ava | Posted 06.16.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Miriam Ava

It's a paradox: We love when things flow, but when sharing our stories with others we play ease down big time. Ease = Flow = Joy = Pleasure = Freedom...

How I Stopped Being a People Pleaser

Debbie Hampton | Posted 04.21.2015 | Women
Debbie Hampton

I unknowingly gave from a place of insecurity and low self-esteem in an attempt to bolster my feelings about myself.

7 Habits Of Considerate People

The Huffington Post | Alena Hall | Posted 09.03.2014 | Healthy Living

"Being considerate of others will take you and your children further in life than any college or professional degree." - Marian Wright Edelman Edel...

Are You Suffering From Secondhand Stress?

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 09.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

When you're around your positive friend you connect and relate to him or her. When you're around the miserable boss, you're tense because you're picking up on his tension, maybe even trying to understand him, and it doesn't make you feel good.

Say 'No' More

Scott Fetters | Posted 04.15.2014 | Business
Scott Fetters

Do not fear the NO. It may seem like a powerfully intimidating two letter word. But for such a tiny word, NO is profoundly liberating. When you decide, "This does not warrant my immediate attention, or this is counterproductive we're not doing this" you embrace your intuition.

Brave

Natalie Thomas | Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents
Natalie Thomas

I'm the one that jumps first and freaks later. But speaking my mind? Finally fessing up to all that was wrong in my life, being a voice for those who hadn't, wouldn't or couldn't? Now that was terrifying.

Halloween is over, but are we still wearing our masks?

Aly Walansky | Posted 01.23.2014 | Women
Aly Walansky

I don't want to stop pleasing people -- I don't want to stop being a good person and showing all the love I have to give. But I am learning to be responsible for my own happiness first, and everyone else, second.

Stop Being a People Pleaser!

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 11.09.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

People pleasers are willing to do anything for the company, anything to make someone happy, and anything to help anyone in need. But people like this should not be exploited. And while kindness is a fine quality, it should not come at the expense of one's needs and personal happiness.

If Everybody Likes You, You Are Doing It Wrong

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 06.22.2013 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

If about 85 percent of the people you meet like you, you are probably doing something right. In contrast, if much more than 85 percent of the people you meet like you, you are probably doing too much to get along.

Are You A People-Pleaser? A Healthier Approach To Friendships

Kathryn Lamble | Posted 12.18.2012 | Healthy Living
Kathryn Lamble

Trying to solve your crappy self-worth through outside approval is a race you're always going to be running at half-speed. When the outside approval dies down, that's the discomfort you have to sit with. That's the "you" you have to learn to love.

STOP the Obedience Insanity

Nancy Sherr | Posted 11.27.2012 | Fifty
Nancy Sherr

We cannot get through life without someone expressing their opinion about what's best (or not) for our life. Opinions are not the problem; everyone has them, and it's actually healthy to express them. But what's not healthy is allowing other people's opinions to dictate the decisions we make.

Why I'm Trying Not To Be Such A 'People-Pleaser'

HelloGiggles | Posted 04.04.2012 | Women

In the month of March, I went on a string of first dates and talked to a lot of guys who didn't even make it to the first date. Some were funny, like ...

It's Nice to Say "NO!"

Daylle Deanna Schwartz | Posted 09.13.2011 | Women
Daylle Deanna Schwartz

I was recently at a motivational event for women. The speaker asked people in the audience to share something special they'd done. One woman said she ...