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People Pleasing

How to Stop Being a People-Pleaser

Greater Good Science Center | Posted 11.01.2016 | Healthy Living
Greater Good Science Center

By Christine Carter Many commentators took issue with my claim that happiness comes when we live with total integrity--when we stop people-pleasing...

Why It Doesn't Pay To Be A People-Pleaser

Greater Good Science Center | Posted 09.06.2016 | Healthy Living
Greater Good Science Center

Being out of integrity has pretty serious consequences for our happiness, and for our relationships. Here's what happens when we aren't being authentic.

5 Phrases Every People-Pleaser Should Learn Right Now

Nichola Weiss | Posted 08.19.2016 | Healthy Living
Nichola Weiss

Here are five go-to phrases that every people-pleaser should learn right now:

People-Pleasing Plucked My Passion! How I Came Home To My Truth

Carolyn Jean Roney | Posted 08.04.2016 | Healthy Living
Carolyn Jean Roney

Just over five years ago, I was a full on people-pleaser. This manifested in all sorts of crazy ways. Generally, it would be around my free time. Well...

How to Stop People-Pleasing

Jen Smith | Posted 05.25.2016 | Healthy Living
Jen Smith

Are you a People-Pleaser? Are you someone who always puts other peoples' feelings above your own or someone who makes the pursuit of other peoples hap...

How to Deal With Guilt Trips

Jen Smith | Posted 05.18.2016 | Healthy Living
Jen Smith

Continuing to jump to a guilt trippers tune, reinforces their bad behavior and that they can get what they want via this route and is crazy making for you in the meantime! Here's a few ideas about how to deal with guilt trips in a healthy way:

Why I Should've Talked Back to My Parents

Brent Stoller | Posted 02.04.2017 | GPS for the Soul
Brent Stoller

For four years I managed the behind-the-scenes operations of a summer camp. Dealing with difficult parents was integral to the job. Most parents were,...

Don't Take It Personally When I Tell You 'No.' I'm Using It On Everyone This Year

Lena Dunham | Posted 01.25.2017 | Women
Lena Dunham

A well-timed yes can expand our world in beautiful and unexpected ways. But I am writing now to espouse the power of another simple word: no.

Stop People Pleasing: 3 Ways to Start Leading Like a Badass

Adrienne Partridge, Ph.D | Posted 12.09.2016 | Women
Adrienne Partridge, Ph.D

What does it mean to be a People Pleaser? Well, as a recovering People Pleaser myself, I can tell you. People Pleasers have an almost insatiable need to be liked by everyone. If you are a People Pleaser, you might say "yes" to too many things, whether it be at work or in your personal life.

Why We Please People and 4 Ways to Change

Amy Crumpton | Posted 12.07.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Amy Crumpton

Do you struggle to follow your heart because you fear disappointing other people? Does it seem what others want from you is rarely what you want for yourself? Do you feel doomed to make decisions that will disappoint someone no matter how hard you try?

Are You a Walking Doormat?

Nozomi Morgan | Posted 12.04.2016 | Business
Nozomi Morgan

I coach and mentor women who live double lives. From the outside, they appear happy with their successful careers. They are making their way up the corporate ladder, connecting with the right people, and adding high-profile accomplishments to their resumes. Looking at their lives from the outside, you'd believe they are living the dream.

7 Steps to Kicking the People Pleasing Habit

Lara Young | Posted 10.27.2016 | Women
Lara Young

Knowing what you want is KEY to shaping the decisions you make and the actions you take every day to move you closer to YOUR goals. Once you know what you want, you can set the priorities to get what you want.

Sorry, not Sorry

Lara Young | Posted 10.19.2016 | Women
Lara Young

If you start stating your opinions from apologizing, the chances of your opinion being taken into account are falling drastically. If you want to improve the quality of your life by being heard, feeling noticed and regarded, then pay attention to this one thing.

How to Stop People Pleasing in 6 Simple Steps

Kali Rogers | Posted 10.09.2016 | Women
Kali Rogers

You know, I bet we burn more calories wondering what other people are thinking about us, or doing things for other people so that they will like us, than we do actually exercising. And to make matters worse, it totally burns us out.

What Every People Pleaser Needs to Realize About Themselves

Jennifer Twardowski | Posted 09.14.2016 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Twardowski

So what can us people pleasers do about this, you ask? Well, there are a few things...

9 Signs You Might Be A People Pleaser

The Huffington Post | Lindsay Holmes | Posted 09.08.2015 | Healthy Living

What would happen if you said yes to everything? This is the premise of a Jim Carrey movie, but it's also a character type. People pleasers thrive off...

Buried Under 'Yes'

Erin Parker | Posted 08.31.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Erin Parker

I could feel the tears welling up in my eyes, impossible to breathe away or hold back. I couldn't go into my classroom full of students and let them s...

The Biggest Problem With 'People Pleasing' (and Why You Should Stop Immediately)

Greg Newton | Posted 08.11.2016 | Healthy Living
Greg Newton

When we put our "good model citizen" mask on, we often act out of integrity and compromise our true nature -- which is a huge price to pay.

10 Things I Wish I Had Known Before My 40s

Grace Bluerock | Posted 06.25.2016 | Healthy Living
Grace Bluerock

The past decade has been a time for personal reflection and growth. I've learned many important lessons and gained new insights, probably more so than in any other decade. I often find myself saying, "If only I knew then what I know now."

Why It's OK to Be the Bad Guy

Kara Post-Kennedy | Posted 05.18.2016 | Parents
Kara Post-Kennedy

We teach our kids to share, especially with children who may have less than they do. We teach our kids to cooperate and compromise, especially if they have a tendency to bully for their own way.

I'm the Weirdest Codependent in the World

Anna David | Posted 05.23.2015 | Healthy Living
Anna David

Over the past few weeks, I've listened to a trainer pontificate on adoption, a tarot card reader lecture about treating bacterial infections and a gyn...

'I'm Sorry' Is My Armor

Jennifer Malise | Posted 05.17.2015 | Women
Jennifer Malise

I'm always going to be scared; of failure, of disappointment, of not being good enough. But I'm done pretending that I won't feel pain if I'm careful enough, or that I can prevent the pain of others by just wishing hard enough. Saying I'm sorry is a verbal tightrope act, and it's one that I'm done performing.

How I Stopped Being a People Pleaser

Debbie Hampton | Posted 04.21.2015 | Women
Debbie Hampton

I unknowingly gave from a place of insecurity and low self-esteem in an attempt to bolster my feelings about myself.

Je Suis Brian Williams

David Bedrick | Posted 04.12.2015 | Media
David Bedrick

Perhaps its time for a psychological intervention, a coming out of the shadows for all of us. Perhaps we could all hold up placards that read "Je suis Brian Williams--I am Brian Williams." Now that would turn our world upside down; that would be a revolution I could sign up for.

The Art of Receiving

Mary Pritchard | Posted 03.07.2015 | Women
Mary Pritchard

I think, as women, that receiving is sometimes foreign territory for us. We give, give, and give some more. But taking? Receiving? Isn't that selfish? No. It's survival. Hear me out.