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Perfectionist

Advice From a Judgmental, Perfectionist, Control Freak

Kylie Dunn | Posted 05.13.2015 | Healthy Living
Kylie Dunn

I wanted to be less of a judgmental, perfectionist, control freak... and finally work out what I wanted to do with my life. The project gave me more than I could ever have imagined, or hoped for, but there are three fundamental lessons from My Year of TED that I think everyone should apply to their own lives. They are a great start to improving your mental health and general happiness.

A Mothers' Day Remembrance

Mark D. Weinberg | Posted 05.08.2015 | Fifty
Mark D. Weinberg

A few weeks before she died, my mother asked me: "Was I a good mother?" Without a second's hesitation, I said: "No." She looked puzzled, and I quickly said: "You ARE a good mother."

On Finally Breaking Free From Paralyzing Perfectionism

Rebecca Strong | Posted 04.15.2015 | Women
Rebecca Strong

People like to idealize perfectionism. They convey it as an endearing quirk, a Woody Allen-esque neurosis. But here's the thing: Striving for excellence and setting unrealistic expectations for yourself are very different things.

Why Saying This Four-Letter Word Can Transform Your Productivity

Fast Company | Lisa Evans | Posted 04.07.2015 | World

Perfectionists are often reminded that "done is better than perfect." But it turns out there’s another reason we should all try to create more "done...

Demons of Perfection

Barrett Pall | Posted 04.27.2015 | Gay Voices
Barrett Pall

Whether it's your weight, your sexuality, issues with your parents, or whatever it is that you beat yourself up for deep down inside, know that you're not perfect. You'll never be perfect. You're not supposed to be perfect. But you will be ok.

How to Recover From a Bad Day

Dr. Melissa McCreery | Posted 04.01.2015 | Healthy Living
Dr. Melissa McCreery

We all have bad days. No matter how many yoga classes you attend, how smoothly your life runs, or how strong your willpower. The secret to thriving is learning how to move forward in spite of bad days, instead of aiming to never have one (the curse of a perfectionist).

On Becoming an Imperfectionist

Kristin Armstrong | Posted 04.15.2015 | Parents
Kristin Armstrong

I'm learning a lot in my pursuit of imperfection. French fries are a delicious addition to a meal. Red wine is a perfectly acceptable as a late night study companion. Plenty of reading can get done in carpool lines. Deadlines are more easily met when you have more deadlines.

8 Ways To Break Up With Perfection

Silvana Perelli | Posted 01.25.2015 | Healthy Living
Silvana Perelli

Authenticity is the new perfection. If you want to strive for something, strive for that. Then you know you'll be in alignment with who you want to be and how you want to show up in the world.

Don't Worry... Be Crappy

Deirdre Maloney | Posted 11.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Deirdre Maloney

Over the years I've gotten pretty good at being pretty crappy at some things. To be clear, I hate being crappy at things. It's not my intention, it's frustrating. But I also know that sometimes it's just necessary.

Four Ways to Move Past Perfectionism and Get Stuff Done

Mercedes Maidana | Posted 11.09.2014 | Small Business
Mercedes Maidana

Are you putting off launching your online program, writing your book, getting your website ready or doing your sales copy? Over the past few years, I've talked to hundreds of people who shared similar scenarios.

Retiring the Art of Perfection

Judi Freedman | Posted 10.03.2014 | Fifty
Judi Freedman

I was looking for a challenge during my second act and now I've found a big one. This goal may take me several years to achieve, but I'm going to accomplish it.

Who Is Chafing Your Chaps?

Dennis Merritt Jones | Posted 08.13.2014 | GPS for the Soul
Dennis Merritt Jones

"Projection always hides a feeling you don't want to look at. If you examine any negative trait you insist is present in another person, you will find...

The High Price Of Being Crazy-Busy

Paula Davis-Laack | Posted 08.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Paula Davis-Laack

Being busy isn't a bad thing as long as it's purposeful, but too many people go from busy, to addicted to busy, to burned out.

Coming to Terms With the Unexpected

Jacklyn Fetbroyt | Posted 05.10.2014 | Parents
Jacklyn Fetbroyt

What I needed was some give, some flexibility, a cushion... some forgiveness. It came in the form of my second son.

Supermom Has Retired

Jenny G. Perry | Posted 03.23.2014 | Parents
Jenny G. Perry

I have more junk drawers than the normal person and plan on dying with at least two active junk drawers.

Why I've Always Been A Perfectionist During The Holidays

Susan Pace | Posted 02.18.2014 | Fifty
Susan Pace

My daughter loves to post this photo around the holiday every year as her profile picture on Facebook. That's me. This isn't staged. I'm not drunk. I just used to be intoxicated on perfection. It's a great reminder of what happens when that is your goal during the holidays.

5 Ways To Let Go Of Perfection At The Holidays

The Huffington Post | Lindsay Holmes | Posted 11.27.2013 | Healthy Living

If you’re a perfectionist, chances are the impending aroma of turkey and the sound of jingle bells makes you a little bit nervous. Whether it’s yo...

Learning From Failure -- How to Transition From Being Less of a Perfectionist to More of an Optimalist

Sarina Tomel | Posted 12.23.2013 | College
Sarina Tomel

Once we master the lesson of learning from failure, we can persevere and come back stronger, more tolerant and disciplined, more successful, more flex...

What Is Perfectionism Really Hiding?

OWN | Posted 10.05.2013 | OWN

What is perfectionism really about? Dr. Brené Brown, a research professor and bestselling author who has studied shame and vulnerability for more tha...

Want Control of Your Life?

Erica Ariel Fox | Posted 11.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Erica Ariel Fox

Your inner negotiators bring their own styles and goals to the table. Your job is to negotiate with yourself -- with the competing parts inside of you -- and bring them to some resolution.

Julie-Ann Tathem, M.A.: 'How Does Feeling Guilty Serve Me?' Permission to Experience Joy When Perfect Doesn't Exist

Julie-Ann Tathem | Posted 11.11.2013 | Women
Julie-Ann Tathem

Does feeling guilty on its own make you a better mother, father, spouse? Does it help with your performance on the job or in advancing your career? Probably not.

Confessions of a Perfectionist

Ashley Ryan | Posted 10.21.2013 | Women
Ashley Ryan

I spent many years living in the shadow of the perfect woman. When we put energy into being what we're not, we often lose precious people and moments along the way. Moments we can never get back -- and sometimes relationships that can't be mended.

How to Be Less Than Perfect

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 10.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

The constant need to make things even better and the obsessing over things can be exhausting and can wreak havoc on one's mood.

10 Beliefs That Undercut Your Happiness

Paula Davis-Laack | Posted 09.17.2013 | Healthy Living
Paula Davis-Laack

These deeply-held beliefs and faulty assumptions prevent us from putting ourselves out there and taking risks, strategies that happy people rely on to succeed. They also prevent us from having those tough conversations, whether with ourselves or with important people in our lives.

Julie Jensen: Life Re-imagined: Survive to Thrive

Julie Jensen | Posted 08.18.2013 | Women
Julie Jensen

I'm sure I'd still be searching for fulfillment if I didn't receive a wake-up call on September 30, 2004. I was 26 when I was wheeled into the ER and a nurse asked if I knew what was happening. "I think I had a stroke," I muttered. "Ma'am, you are HAVING a stroke."