Technology is a danger of the contemporary dating landscape. I don't have it all figured out, but I have developed the "Donovan Rule:" No frequent calling or texting before the first meeting - and no overnight bags on Date 1.
The bra industry could welcome this new group of bra wearers because of the very real medical reasons why men need to wear bras. As one 45-year-old male said, "it's about time that the world is accepting that men also have boobs, and some need to wear a bra."
Something funny happened as I matured and had money to spend. When my dental hygienist commented on my 'great' teeth, I was baffled at first. They didn't seem at all to resemble the ones in the Colgate commercials, but when I looked closer, I noticed that they weren't cracked or wildly uneven. Maybe that constitutes beauty?
I obsess over this widening hair part, the way it opens like a zipper to reveal a small white patch of skull at the back top left of my head. "No one notices but you," my husband comforts me, and I know he's right, if only because no one much notices a 47-year-old woman at all in this society.
In my entire 40 years, I've never once been high or intoxicated. Still, an AA program would serve me well. Approval Anonymous. A support group that could help eliminate my need to be accepted by other people and direct me toward the sense of self that I am just beginning to claim after decades of living inauthentically.
Whether Her face is the visage a famous actress or belongs to a friend you grew up who has had the temerity of suddenly looking younger than you, the semiotic study of the faces of women is one of our favorite national pastimes.
The notion that cosmetic surgery is a "simple beauty treatment" is a contradiction in terms, a paradox of sorts. Surgery is almost never simple, physically or psychologically, and the more we believe it's a solution to our beauty needs, the less beautiful we tend to feel.
A boundary was crossed. The reaction to Renée Zellweger's face is neither an aversion to plastic surgery nor an expression of shock towards what people are calling an identity change.
Because we're reluctant to talk about our own vanity-driven alterations, we tend to want to dismiss and condemn those of others. The real objection to Zellweger's new face isn't that she has one. The objection is that we can't pretend it didn't happen.
I may not be a movie star, but Renee Zellweger and I? We're not so different. At least, that's what I suspect. Let me explain.
Here are four of the women's "arguments" for altering your body and face.
He looked at me and caught his breath. I was the perfect candidate for his advertisements that revealed the "before" photograph... the one that shows just how grotesque the human body can become.
Never in a million years did I imagine that the fear of being radically honest about my violent journey with body image and being courageous enough to take my shirt off outside the photo studio would birth an event that transformed the way we -- and I -- truthfully feel about body image.
As a feminist, I've always felt deeply conflicted about the whole boob job thing. On one hand, it's both sad and ridiculous that women feel compelled to pay thousands and undergo surgery to attain an ostensibly "more desirable" body.
As a young girl, I was indoctrinated and blindly aligned myself to that belief system. But not anymore. I, along with many others, have outgrown that life-view. Welcome tall, short, fat, thin, young, old and every color. Welcome me. Welcome you
by guest blogger Renee James, humorist and blogger A few years ago, I wrote a column addressing what I thought was the nadir of women's self-esteem...