I thought about how unfair women's sizes are to men's sizes. I do not wear anything that is considered a large. No one makes comments about my size anymore. I have not ripped or gone through a pair of pants in years. Yet if I was a women I would have to shop at "plus-size" stores.
I hate the word "curvy," because although I'm a size 8-10, the word just doesn't describe me. I have a nice solid trunk, but no rolls unless I'm sitting down, or having sex with my legs in the air.
There is this myth that we tell ourselves that clothes magically fit everyone else, and it's just our own terribly misshapen bodies that are the anomaly.
"Big Ballet" tells women who aren't ballerina-petite that there's no space for them on the main stage, only in the wings.
Owning the fact that a plus size (ouch!) fits my body even though I continue to exercise and eat healthy foods means that my body has matured along with the rest of my life.
Modeling, and especially living your life in the public eye, is by far the hardest thing I've ever done. We are breeding a generation of young girls and guys who think their worth is based on their looks and how many "likes" they get. You can say "It's always been this way," but I can tell you, it hasn't.
Shopping for a wedding dress can be an exciting (and stressful) endeavor for any bride. But it can become daunting when the average American woman wears a size 14, yet many bridal stores cater to a size six and don't carry gown samples in plus sizes.
The only thing I have any interest in enabling is for women to stop hating themselves. I don't care what weight they are doing it from.
One of my personal tips for successful online shopping is to know your fabrics. Knowledge of fabrics will allow you to gauge the fit of a garment, allow you to pick the best size, and give you a good idea on what you will be getting in the mail.
The only way beauty pageants can stop being PR vehicles for the size zero ideal is for women of all shapes to enter them and make their presence the norm.
Model Kate Dillon and Summer Rayne Oakes talk about body image and fashion.
Let's stop tearing each other down and instead, educate each other on how to treat our bodies and ourselves with the utmost compassion and respect.
In my 23 years experience of being a fat chick, I've come to the conclusion we fall into 3 groups.
Yes, of course, there are some amazing, original bloggers, but there are an awful lot of girls who choose to dress exactly the same, with long ombré hair and floppy hats and Jeffrey Campbell Litas.
So "okay at any size" seems to be gathering pop culture momentum. And I regret to say, I can't be entirely okay with that. It's not the size I'm not okay with -- it's the consequences.
Wearing a size 11 meant I was fat. And in my world, in this society, that isn't okay. It isn't acceptable. It isn't ideal. No one likes it.