It's an old joke: if you only ate healthy food, would you live to 100, or would it just seem that way? A close friend of many years, Gina, regaled us at a recent birthday lunch about the Dinner Guests from Hell whose dietary requirements were so draconian she feared serving her first ever company meal of carrot sticks and water.
Having no idea what to do next hurts, even as it might excite us on some level. Whether graduating from college or retiring from a long career, the road ahead may appear to be devoid of landmarks - intimidating in its blankness, goading because freedom is supposed to be so desirable yet its reality is often heavy with perplexing dilemmas.
Yes, there is more to dating and mating and enjoying a relationship than physical attraction, so no need to point that out. And yes, these bits of advice apply to both women and men. And yes, who am I to be giving advice about what people look like. OK... But we all respond initially to appearance, so a few basics are worth keeping in mind.