I believe that if we make the effort to listen, we can hear our hearts guiding us. And if we think we can ignore its wisdom, we will lose our way. Eventually we have to face up to our past choices. But doing so gives us an opportunity to bring our love and compassion into the world by listening to our wise hearts.
Control has become such an important part of my sexual identity, it even factors into the type of sex that I'll have. This is my moment to feel whole as a man; it is a split second in time that is not regulated by bookings, bed times and schedules. I get to actually have someone there with me out of want -- not necessity.