Love makes the world go round. And when it comes to LGBT civil rights, love is what all the fuss is all about. Two recent books from Cleis Press (both published in 2013) brought the idea of love to the forefront of my mind, in very different ways.
Should a man who openly opposes gay marriage -- and even donates money in an attempt to deny basic human rights -- be the face of an entire corporation that, among other things, provides Internet service to more than a billion people?
Why, if most Americans reject discrimination, do their elected legislatures support it? And, in particular, that means the Republican-controlled House of Representatives.
There's a fascinating new trend emerging in the state-by-state litigation over marriage equality: In increasing numbers, governors and attorneys general are announcing that they will no longer support their state's marriage-equality bans.
In an interview with me at the 2008 RNC, Sally Kern repeated a line she'd said before, that "we're becoming so open-minded that our brains are falling out." Well, Kern's brain must be toppling all over the sidewalk, after a federal judge in Oklahoma ruled yesterday that the state's ban on gay marriage is unconstitutional.
The country won two major victories for marriage equality last month in Utah and New Mexico, but don't celebrate yet: Anti-gay groups could still find a way to undo that progress.
We may not be there yet, but we are on the road. We are passing the tipping point. And we are going to keep moving forward until marriage equality is a national norm, not a local option. Because, in the words of San Juan County Clerk Norman Johnson: 'It's time.'
Personally, 2013 has been a landmark year, but more importantly, it has been been a year that hosted some of the most ground-breaking LGBTQ events in American and world history. Before we charge into 2014, we should reflect on these significant occurrences.
As discrimination falls state by state across our great nation, we don't hear enough about children and the impacts of the fight on the most precious among us. It's important that we keep them steadfastly in our minds.
The year started with no shortage of uncertainly and doubt: After years of challenging Proposition 8, AFER was about to argue before the U.S. Supreme Court that marriage equality is protected by the Constitution.
I wonder if the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormon Church) will keep funneling millions and millions of dollars to Brain Brown and his National Organization for Marriage after their huge loss in Utah yesterday?
The state -- at least the state of New Mexico -- does not privilege marriage as a way to make impulsive young men stick by their kids. It sanctions marriage to help strengthen the commitments of couples and families -- real families. And that includes gay ones.
I was able to spot two small, simple signs: "Stop Co-Ed Showers in Schools" and "No Opposite Sex in School Bathrooms." I realized that the hordes of tourists were waiting for their chance to add signatures to the growing petition to topple California's new law protecting transgender students.
Change towards what I believe to be inevitable is happening quickly now. But things have not moved swiftly enough for this mother who, in the mid-1990s, wanted for her gay son what he wanted for himself -- that it be okay that the love of his life was a man, and that he be allowed to marry and raise children.
Since the Supreme Court's historic rulings against DOMA and Proposition 8, I've heard lots of enthusiastic friends say, "So what's next now that we've achieved gay rights?" LGBT people know that marriage equality is just the tip of the iceberg. Most straight people like me don't.