Change towards what I believe to be inevitable is happening quickly now. But things have not moved swiftly enough for this mother who, in the mid-1990s, wanted for her gay son what he wanted for himself -- that it be okay that the love of his life was a man, and that he be allowed to marry and raise children.
Since the Supreme Court's historic rulings against DOMA and Proposition 8, I've heard lots of enthusiastic friends say, "So what's next now that we've achieved gay rights?" LGBT people know that marriage equality is just the tip of the iceberg. Most straight people like me don't.
Today is National Marriage Equality Day. We created the day on Aug. 7, 2012, as a response to Mike Huckabee's Chick-fil-A Day, in which thousands showed up in the name of homophobia AKA marriage inequality -- or as they spun it, "free speech." Much has changed in 365 days.
Recently, our company, OneGoodLove, the only online dating site for relationship-minded LGBT singles, partnered with three other LGBT companies -- Wolfe Video, Lesbian.com, and Sweet.com -- to raise money for Freedom to Marry's latest campaign.
When I call up Paul Katami and Jeff Zarrillo, they're in the car -- as Katami puts it, "We're running around today." It's all remarkably ordinary in a way, a marked change from the whirlwind June for the two men who, along with another couple, successfully brought Proposition 8 to its knees.
Our country's future demands that we embrace our next generation of leaders -- the often-underestimated Millennials -- who are the largest, most diverse, and most progressive generation the country has ever seen.
Unfortunately, it is safe to assume that had the U.S. Supreme Court not reached its verdict in 1967, many states would have kept their laws against interracial marriage for as long as they could.
This was a day that I could never have imagined as an adolescent, when I struggled to reconcile my sexuality with religious teachings. This was a day to pause and appreciate how blessed I am now to be part of a church that affirms my full participation.
Marriage equality would allow new generations of youth, as they recognize that they are lesbian, gay, or bisexual, to envision a life where intimate relationships and acceptance are the norm. Gay and heterosexual people will learn that gay people and their relationships are valued and honored.
Marriage equality is now the law in the most populous state, California, but there are considerations unique to our state's community property system of which people may not necessarily be aware. The following Q-and-A raises some of those issues.
So marriage equality finally won in California. Now what? There are 37 answers to that question, and they all entail a lot of work. Interestingly, the tactics in each state are pretty diverse.
Marriage equality has far-reaching effects, bigger than I ever imagined. The Supreme Court gave parents who love their children and want them to have a good life more reason to accept them and their partners. This decision is not weakening the family structure; it has the ability to strengthen it.
Here's a backstage peek at history being made: The American Foundation for Equal Rights has released some amazing footage of marriage returning to California. This is a moment in American history that people will study for a long, long time. And we're lucky enough to be watching it as it happens.
The Supreme Court's rulings force LGBTQ people of color, like me, to reside a bifurcated reality in terms of full civil rights protections.
Impact litigation is a suit filed to bring change to the nation when legislatures prove unwilling or unable to act, presenting a chance to change the conversation where ballot measures and bills have hit a wall. It's disruptive, cutting through the noise and the politics and allowing the facts to surface.