So marriage equality finally won in California. Now what? There are 37 answers to that question, and they all entail a lot of work. Interestingly, the tactics in each state are pretty diverse.
Marriage equality has far-reaching effects, bigger than I ever imagined. The Supreme Court gave parents who love their children and want them to have a good life more reason to accept them and their partners. This decision is not weakening the family structure; it has the ability to strengthen it.
Here's a backstage peek at history being made: The American Foundation for Equal Rights has released some amazing footage of marriage returning to California. This is a moment in American history that people will study for a long, long time. And we're lucky enough to be watching it as it happens.
The Supreme Court's rulings force LGBTQ people of color, like me, to reside a bifurcated reality in terms of full civil rights protections.
Impact litigation is a suit filed to bring change to the nation when legislatures prove unwilling or unable to act, presenting a chance to change the conversation where ballot measures and bills have hit a wall. It's disruptive, cutting through the noise and the politics and allowing the facts to surface.
The modern LDS Church has repeatedly stated that marriage is between "a man and a woman." This position is curious considering Mormons' infamous history of plural marriage and the struggles they faced because of it.
Not having the option to marry the person I love in my home state -- the place where I grew up, where I learned to walk and speak, live and love, the place where I learned what growing up in a loving, committed family felt like -- is proof that the fight for equality still must continue.
Despite the fact that full LGBT equality has not yet been achieved, the trend towards achievement of that goal is definitely clear.
Maybe despite their screams to the press that they would win, they knew what was coming, what was inevitable. What followed that amazing day when my husband and I woke up without equality and went to bed with 1,100 more rights, was truly dumbfounding.
On the steps of the Supreme Court, we began to sing the national anthem. I'm amazed by how incredible it feels to sing this. It's a powerful thing to hear a host of men's voices blending together, marginalized citizens showing pride in and passion for a country slow to embrace them fully.
"Frank and Nikki sitting in a tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G." Almost everyone knows the rest of this song: "First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes th...
At 18, I stuffed my natural attraction to women down into my soul and chose to date men, all because a shrink had said that anyone who was homosexual couldn't possibly be normal, because who would "choose" such a difficult life?
The past five years have been long. They have been painful. But now, with the Supreme Court's decision to restore the right to marry here, California is the state we hoped it would be when we first arrived. It is a state full of possibility.
Look at it this way: When Prop 8 passed the first time, there were no parades, no scowling crowds of Mormons stripping off their strange underwear and waving banners of joy in the streets, celebrating this new and nasty constraint on love.
From Washington D.C., to California and now New York, this week has been full of exciting and long-awaited news for the LGBT community. It only felt right to have a celebration -- and that's what happened on Sunday, June 30.
I participated in a conference call with the American Foundation for Equal Rights moments after their Supreme Court victory. Speaking on the call are AFER Executive Director Adam Umhoefer; lead co-counsel David Boies; plaintiffs Kris Perry, Sandy Stier, Paul Katami and Jeff Zarrillo; and others.