The U.S. Supreme Court rulings today are a testimony to the ways time and personal stories change our understanding. The decisions are part of an ongoing narrative of change in the movement for justice.
In 1999, we were only two gay men, one lesbian and one straight guy. We founded Marriage Equality California to fight against the Knight Initiative (later Proposition 22), a plan by a California state legislator to put on the ballot an initiative to prevent his own son from marrying.
Lawyers are scrambling to figure out when marriages can start. But there are a lot of other questions to answer, too: How do you file your taxes now? What does this mean for immigration? What do employers have to do to comply with the law?
If you had told me when I first got married in 2004 that I would be sitting here now, with our sleeping 4-year-old in the other room, awaiting a decision from the Supreme Court on marriage equality, I wouldn't have possibly believed you.
I consider following up with the words Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. famously used, "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice." But I suspect K-Bird's too young to understand that. Then again, maybe he isn't.
As an activist committed to the audacious goal of full equality for LGBT Americans, I am celebrating today's rulings as incremental victories toward that not-yet "mission accomplished" goal. We did not get the whole enchilada -- but there is enough guacamole for me.
With the overturning of DOMA, it will simply be easier for states to embrace marriage equality and move past intolerance. It now becomes harder to push anti-gay policies, because there is no incentive to do so under federal law. Today is a dark day for the forces of anti-gay bigotry.
Here is a list of the 10 most important lines from today's Supreme Court opinions in Windsor.
Now that we've come tantalizingly close to equality in the military and marriage arenas, it would be unacceptable to take an adverse or incremental Supreme Court ruling as anything but a step on the longer march to equality.
The story of the untimely ending to Shane and Tom's love is heartbreaking. It doesn't matter what one's sexual orientation is; love is love, and loss is loss. The urgent underlying message in the story of Shane and Tom is that they had no legal means of legitimizing their relationship.
Tomorrow's Supreme Court decision on marriage equality isn't just political. Each of us has a very personal reason that our stomach is filled with butterflies today. Here's mine.
I was honored to be in attendance at the Harvey Milk Diversity Breakfast on May 23, 2013, in Palm Springs, Calif., at which retired Ninth Circuit Court Judge Vaughn R. Walker gave the keynote address. I bring you the speech in its entirety.
There are a lot of different ways that the court could rule, but nearly all of them involve the resumption of marriage in California. It's the most populous state in the country and would add about 34 million people to the total population living in states with marriage equality.
Like most of my straight counterparts know, a wedding takes a lot of time. Most venues require a full year to book in advance. Which is no problem unless you're like us and the entire wedding is dependent on how the courts rule.
Although Mark and I are not planning a wedding anytime soon, it is important that our government support and recognize that our love is as powerful and valuable as that of any heterosexual couple, just as it was for Mr. and Mrs. Loving despite their races.