The tribalism of organizing the world into categories comes from a very basic place to identify those around us. There are those that are men, those that are women and there are those that are not. Having the wisdom to know when it matters is what will make the world a better place.
Where did strangers answer the "call of nature" in Victorian London? At the start of Victoria's reign, options were limited. Some pubs had primitive outdoor "urinals" -- no more than a vertical slab of stone -- but men largely resorted to the nearest alley.
When I was a kid I didn't want money. I didn't want to be a VP at a company, like all my friends' parents were. I wanted to fly into outerspace. Or be a hobbit. Everywhere I looked I saw opportunities for magic.