The fact that you are even reading this post should be evidence enough for you that your relationship is heading down an unhealthy path. But since coming to that realization can be scary on your own, allow me help ease you into accepting your potential breakup.
My social life is different now that I'm not married. When I was married, there were times I went out with my girlfriends, and there were times when my husband and I went out as a couple with other couples.
June 21st marked the summer solstice, the longest day of the year, which is commonly associated with kicking off the harvest season. But did you know that it also has a history of instigating some frisky behavior?
Never seek approval, as in "I want to go out with you, I hope you like me." Whether your first or fifth, the date is much more likely to be successful when you are true to who you are and not seeking approval from others.
The moment you learn to surrender and let go, is the second you start to feel more in tune with who you are. The moment you learn to surrender and let go, is the moment you free your energy from a negative relationship.
I know how it feels when the people in your life do crazy with unparalleled proficiency and panache. Sometimes it seems your only option is to unleash a well-deserved mix of rage, inarguable criticisms and the list of how you do the whole living thing in a superior fashion.
We control to get love and avoid pain, yet by controlling rather than loving ourselves and others, we create the very pain we are trying to avoid. The negative aspects of your relationship and your expectations are fertile areas for exploration within yourself and with your partner.
We all look at failure, be it in love or business, as a negative thing. But if we turn the glass around and look at it from another perspective, all these failures are essential and are the springboard to the success we have today.
Although happiness is often a very real byproduct of a healthy relationship, marriage is designed to pull dysfunction to the surface of our lives, set it on fire and help us grow. The job of marriage is to refine our dysfunction and spur us into progressive wholeness.
Would it be comforting to you to hear more details of his days? Would he prefer to text during the day (just to let you know he's thinking about you) or have one long phone conversation in the evening?
My best revenge? Deciding to thrive... in spite of, and showing my ex-husband I was just as cool, sexy and fantastic (but more successful) without him than I was with him. Now that, ladies, was revenge.