It would be easy to say, "Yes, you were to blame." And it would be just as easy to say, "No, it wasn't your fault. You're not to be blamed." If you're feeling confused and a little upset right about now, then you're in the right place.
It seems to me that if we want our relationships and marriages to be accepted by our straight counterparts, then maybe it's time to keep a lid on what exactly it is that we do behind closed doors. Maybe it's just no one's business.
We recently celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary and it got me thinking about how this marriage is working so well when the people in it can get so crazy and confused and frustrated and even at times, short-tempered and jerky.
In short, you want to get on the path to loving yourself. Do things for yourself that feel good. When you feel good, you radiate goodness. Everyone else wants to be around you and you do not lose yourself in relationships.
Stalking an ex online or on Facebook isn't fine.
Hearing someone else's hotel sex can be frustrating, but your orgasm was so festive, I found myself cheering you on. And then you had that great cry after. Was it a real sob?
The usual holiday reality is sparkling moments shining through quite a lot of disappointment, which is usually caused by the fact that we and those around us often fail in our duty to behave like Santa's perfect little elves.
Always speak from the position of 'I.' Avoid the use of 'you' when you are dealing with sensitive issues. As soon as you start with 'you,' the other person will disengage from active listening and get defensive.
Why aren't you engaged yet?Really? Like, am I supposed to be engaged already? Because last time I checked I was 25, broke, and drunk.
A deep connection to work is wonderful if it doesn't disconnect you from others. It's even better if your connection to work connects you to others and offers them an opportunity to create their own connections in turn. This is not just great business; it keeps you alive!
No amount of philanthropic strategy-building or implementation fills my soul nearly as much as just sitting with a friend and letting them unfold. Be heard. Open up. Melt away walls. It's intimacy in its most authentic form.
Remember the last time you were gossiping on the phone with a friend or the last time you were unusually judgmental? Your teens are paying attention and will be happy to point out how what you say and do aren't consistent. Be careful.
Sometimes the best thing to do when those around you are displaying frantic or negative energy is to get razor focused on something else. Anything else.
There is a common misconception that a polyamorous relationship is really no different from an open-relationship agreement: one committed couple, with some lighthearted fun on the side. But the word "polyamory," by definition, means loving more than one.
Once upon a time I had a girlfriend. I was 16 and confused about my sexuality; she was 17 and clearly also confused about my sexuality.
When people fall in love they usually want to jump in and make the marriage commitment. They generally believe wholeheartedly that what they feel now will never change and they don't anticipate what will happen after a few years of marriage.