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- New saami I'm a Fan of saami permalink

Forgiveness heals the one who forgives. Both benefit but the one who forgives gains the freedom of not dragging the anger and bitternesss around like an albatross around their neck. Being perpetually angry at someone is like taking poison and hoping they will die.

    Reply    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:15 PM on 07/06/2009
- calimom123 I'm a Fan of calimom123 permalink

My husband was killed in a DWI crash just short of two years ago, leaving a 14 month old, 5 year old and 14 year old as well as myself. As hard as it is, and as much as driving drunk can be considered a selfish and unfathomable act, I've worked hard to work to forgive the other driver (who is now serving a prison sentence) Hate and rage can consume you.

Not to trash the blogger here, but lost wallets and retainers can really seem like pretty small potatoes in light of all the horrible things that can happen in this life. Be happy those are your biggest problems and try to work on being someone who does not inspire fear in their own family members for committing the human act of misplacing important items.

    Reply    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:23 PM on 07/06/2009
- Malkin71 I'm a Fan of Malkin71 permalink
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An inablility to forgive an accident speaks to extreme self-centeredness.

It means that you don't feel you should have to be burdened by other's mistakes.

Patting yourself on the back for doing so...reveals other things....

    Reply    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 08:34 AM on 07/06/2009
- Dacktyl I'm a Fan of Dacktyl permalink

Wow. This is so weird. I also starting a blog about happiness. It seems like a lot of people have had the same idea at the same time - sometimes this happens when the world really needs it. I think a lot of people need to choose happiness these days. Check out my writings on happiness at http://www.fandha.com.

    Reply    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:22 PM on 07/05/2009
- lungfish I'm a Fan of lungfish permalink
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I was constantly berated by a now-ex for things that happened that were obviously not intentional. She had a habit of criticizing me and if things went wrong she sought to blame me constantly. I am an open person. I acknowledge my mistakes and I do my best to mitigate them. So when she was raging at me it wore on my confidence and destroyed my comfort and trust with her. She could flip out anywhere about anything. And when she was at the heart of the problem, and she often was, she didn't say a thing.
Her favorite way of making up was to call me later and blurt out a lame "sorry things were so rough" without ever confronting her behavior or actually letting me confront it.. If I still had residual feelings she was ready to fight some more.
In her life there were no mistakes, no accidents. Everything that happened was taken personally and it ALWAYS called for an attack. She went through so many friends and contacts that, by the end, I hadn't had a friendly interaction in years and worse, I didn't bother even going to the store for fear of being abused. I was isolated...
My point in this whole thing is that it is so, so important to get a handle on forgiveness. Failure to do so doesn't just ruin your life, it really messes with the lives of those around you...

    Reply    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:27 PM on 07/05/2009
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