For all the single ladies out there, the holidays can be an especially tough time of year, especially when it comes to handling those family/friends/work holiday parties that you'll be attending stag. To prepare for the inevitable, let's go over some strong defensive tactics.
Divorce is a long, emotional process and the decision to divorce shouldn't be taken lightly or made impulsively. It is important to note that there is always time to change your mind, even if the divorce train is well on its way.
The joy of relationships is to be able to connect from the heart and share love -- with a partner, parents, children and friends. If this is not your experience, then you might want to consider doing some inner work in the coming year.
But that old saying about it's the thought that counts is not really a superficial sentiment. Gifts need to be a genuine expression of love and well thought out. They need to come from the heart, not out of a sense of obligation or duty.
The man I love is as calm and pleasant as the day is long. He treats me with love and respect. He's gentle and soft-spoken, a perfect joy to be with. But when night falls, Mark undergoes a ghastly transformation.
Harlan and I were just learning how to be married when I was diagnosed with lung cancer. Since January we have lived in the shadow of my illness, and it was starting to define us. We needed to see our marriage and ourselves in a new light.
Our biggest threat is not, as we've come to be told, each other -- it's the people who have convinced us we're each other's enemies.
The heart is precious. Love is our most vulnerable, tender temple of self. When we are wounded, heartbroken, disappointed or sad it is crucial that we go the extra mile to treat ourselves with upmost respect.
I learned to love who I was at my core, and embrace the fact that a good fit for me partner-wise would be someone who cherished the dominant parts of me and didn't compete with them. When I finally accepted this, I met the love of my life.
True unconditional love is loving someone for who they are, on good days and bad -- not what they do FOR us. Or what we get from it. Though sadly, modern media, "He got it at Jared"-type advertising, and movies try daily to convince us otherwise.
The timing may be imperfect; the setting may be all wrong; but when we find love, we can do nothing but throw ourselves into it with our whole hearts. It is a goal to achieve, a dream to fulfill. It is a bet we hope to win, but may lose.
If you really want to show your love to someone, be your authentic self and show up in the relationship. It's as simple as that.
Being me always conquers being perfect. I chose me. I chose well-being and that it wouldn't beat me again.
The key to happiness is in not caring what anyone else thinks of you on any level at all, and in not comparing your life to a dream, a fantasy, someone else's life or a perfect imaginary situation that you somehow insisted into your life as something that must be -- or all is lost.
Even momentarily concentrating on healthy solutions rewires psychological patterns to receive and share healthy sexual love in the present. Here are three meditations with the themes of failure, fidelity, and forgiveness for you to ponder and practice this week.
I didn't want to be married until I was done with graduate school; I didn't want to be married while we were living in California, and on and on until I ran out of excuses. I realize now that on some deeper level, I just didn't want to marry him.