It seems that we are both the givers and the takers; it's only until we tip the scales of justice that we truly see who is the true giver of us all...
There are some things you can't share with strangers. But since we're friends, I wanted to let you in on a little known fact concerning my sex life. It's a strange thing, but not in a urinate-on-you kind of strange. It's better described as peculiar.
The idea of a polyamorous relationship is probably shocking to a lot of people, but for Bob Lanning and his partner Don, who was often away for his job as an airline pilot, it was just the right thing to do.
If I found someone fast, my son wouldn't remember a mommy who was lonely and alone. And this is precisely how I arrived at the altar a second time -- broken, clinically depressed and desperate for a world that resembled that movie reel of what once was.
In the gym, just like in my business, I measure backward and use that measurement to determine my next move. I am constantly looking to improve, but I base my choices on what has recently happened, not on what I hope will happen in the future.
Part of being a good partner to a trans person is being supportive of their gender expression, however that might take form: physically, emotionally, spiritually. But the truth is that partners go through their own transitions, too.
Having discussed these issues at length with lovers and compatriots alike, we decided to conduct a little unofficial poll as a beacon of light to guide our battered ship away from the shoals.
If you believe and feel that you are stuck, then you are. Instead, believe and feel that what you desire is only around the next bend.
All the time, I hear from women who say, "I'm having sex with my husband X times per week (usually this is 1-3) and he's STILL not happy." I ask if they enjoy the sex, and they say, "Yeah, sometimes."
It's an interesting proposition -- that two people can fall in love simply by answering these 36 questions. I tend to agree with those who commented on the column that one makes a choice to fall in love.
Divorce is rarely a mutual decision and each role ("the leaver" or "the one left") has its own unique experiences. Unfortunately I have traveled down both sides of this potholed street, but on each path there were shining green lights after all the roadwork was completed.
This exercise will give you a chance to view your life as the force of energy that you are. When you're done, you'll have a clearer view into the things that cost and feed your energy, along with things that help you conserve it. This kind of awareness is the essential beginning of any change.
The secret to communicating -- and more importantly, connecting, is to open your heart up more. Be open to being vulnerable.
The fact is that modesty, or even self-effacement, can be more effective than bragging in creating a good first impression. Most of us know this from being on the receiving end, yet we still err on the side of self-aggrandizement. But why do we get it wrong so much of the time? Here's where some new research may be illuminating.
Sometimes I want to be weak and helpless and have someone else to blame for everything that's wrong in my life. But if that's true, where does it leave me? What can I learn or improve from that position of helplessness?
With the Best Friends feature gone, we can no longer rely on the fear of getting caught to act appropriately. We must hold ourselves accountable for our actions. It doesn't matter who's watching.