Contrary to what lots of straight men think, this feminist is not trying to dominate men. In fact, men who don't have a good enough sense of themselves to advocate for their own needs don't attract me at all.
Have you heard the rumor that married sex is boring? Well, that's not the case in my 11-year marriage, and it doesn't have to be for yours either. One of the beautiful things about being with the same partner for so long is you are able to explore each other's bodies.
My paternity leave fundamentally shaped me as a person, parent and spouse, and I believe it contributed to the strength and resiliency of my family. I wish all fathers and families had the same opportunity.
If anything, I thought I would struggle with always having someone around. I imagined fighting for space. I feared losing independence. But that's not been the case.
Playing the diplomat isn't always possible, especially if a frenemy clearly crosses a workplace line. Feelings of tension can also hinder productivity for both parties, so it can be helpful to clear the air.
Financial abuse is something that we rarely discuss openly since it is often insidious and wrapped up in the confines of what appears to be otherwise, a normal relationship. So what are the signs and what can be done about it?
A perception gap occurs when the intention you set forth and communicate is misunderstood by your audience -- bosses, peers, subordinates, clients, partners, and even friends. Unfortunately, it happens all the time.
While you might not be aware of it, we all have at least a second to choose how we want to respond to a trigger -- and most times more than a second. If you choose to take the breath and tune in, you have a chance of responding from your loving adult self rather reacting from your ego wounded self. You have the chance to move into compassion for yourself.
Being in love can change our perceptions about everything in our lives, and sometimes those warm and fuzzy emotions can actually warp our realities -- especially when it comes to new love.
Expect your marriage to be a nice long road trip with smooth stretches and unpaved areas, hills, curves, valleys, ditches and quite a few speed-bumps and potholes. Every now and again you might need to fix the engine and find a good mechanic, but don't forget to stop at the viewpoints, enjoy the scenery, pack good snacks and take a lot of pictures.
Partnership can be challenging at times and it jumps to a whole new level of intensity when you add one or more tiny humans to the mix.
Feminism made women self-reliant so that we no longer depended on a man for money or to pay our bills. We can date as equals. We can even ask the guy out, call him, pay for dinner. Finally things were even.
Being aware of the soul's craving for love, I became interested in recognizing the common threads in all of the happy, loving relationships I was coming across. I wanted to decode the secrets of a strong bond, and here's what I found the keys to be.
Very few men are going to know what you want, when you want it and how you want it. My grandmother used to say, "You must summer and winter, and summer and winter, with a man to truly know him," and for him to truly know you. Give a man the chance to know you.
We can't control other people and we can't control our environment (we can create it, just not completely control it). The one thing over which we can exert, and maintain control of, is our self and the way we respond to any, and every, situation.
The big question is, how? The even bigger question is, how do we find peace in love? Is it an illusion? Does it really exist? Let's think about it for a moment.