When I work with people, I never consider them working "for" me, or me working "for" them, but "with" me as part of a team. I now understand why I've been met, time and again, with disappointment or frustration.
Persuasive people have an uncanny ability to get you leaning toward their way of thinking. Their secret weapon is likeability. They get you to like more than their ideas; they get you to like them.
Family unity and healthy interactions, who could possibly be against that? Not many! I've got two daughters-in-law who are precious to me and one more soon to be welcomed joyously into our family. I find myself always trying to be a well intentioned, non-meddling mother-in-law. Sometimes, I even succeed. Sometimes I don't.
Part II: Your Blissful Others Well hello again! The last time we met we discussed the notion that the real problem with work/life balance isn't that...
Narcissists can make you fall in love with them so hard that it feels like you're giving up a part of your heart to leave them. And they use every man...
The following is based on real-life experiences with my family since the birth of my son. It goes without saying that these situations, from cultural misunderstandings to racial/ethnic insensitivity to flat-out ignorance, likely represent only the tip of the iceberg in terms of what my biracial son can expect to experience throughout his life.
Benjamin Franklin argued that we should employ accounting techniques to select the right romantic counterparts. Jonathan William, apparently a romantic, responded by saying, before taking a wife, a man "must fall in love... and that seems to be as involuntary an act as falling into a well.
Love at first sight is lovely, but if you've been on more than a few first dates, you know the initial heat may quickly cool. In that first meeting you look for clues or "tells" as to whether that person across from you is worth seeing again. Still, it's easy to overlook some crucial signs.
You may have read recent headlines touting marriage as the cure-all for everything from heart disease to depression, but when you look more closely at some of the research, there's a strong body that suggests staying single can also be very good for your health.
When we enter a relationship to marry, most of us commit with that lifelong intent underlying our decision. But during the interim, people discover things about themselves that they didn't know going in.
Those very old childhood feelings were rearing their ugly head, stronger and louder that ever. I remember waking up the morning I wrote it with a feeling of clarity as to why I had the fear, and believed it was simply a fear, and not my actual reality. It turns out I was wrong.
We'd retain our last names for our respective work purposes, but for family affairs we wanted to be a united front. If he wasn't going to take my last name (because why should either one of our names get special preference?), then we needed another option. For us, merging was the most elegant solution.
Are you navigating though life by trying to figure out what everybody else thinks, wants and likes, in order to do, be and give that to them so they'll like you? This is very common, but certainly not unproblematic. Here are a few reasons why.
Sometimes a controlling man genuinely wants to change. Maybe he regrets having hurt his loved ones. Maybe he is tired of being angry, tired of feeling alone and misunderstood, and tired of monitoring another person. Maybe he is truly ready to change.
Despite my frayed feelings, my instinct was to forgive Sarah. Growing up, I'd been exposed to enough religion and pop psychology to believe that "to forgive is divine," and that dwelling on the past can only bring misery.