It seems many of us have a fear of failing, or not doing enough, or not doing it "right." We are afraid that if we leave that inbox unattended, we will seem irresponsible. If we leave the dishes in the sink for that moment, we are just creating more to do later.
When necessary, change isn't easy and it's just natural to try and initially resist it. What's interesting is that it's not change that's difficult to confront; it's the process of transformation that can be challenging.
An important new study released this morning by Travel Effect found that 40 percent of American workers will leave paid vacation days unused. The four reasons cited the most are the dread of returning from a vacation to piles of work (40 percent), the belief that no one will be able to step in and do their job for them while they're gone (35 percent), not being able to afford it (33 percent) and the fear of being seen as replaceable (22 percent). "Americans suffer from a work martyr complex," said Roger Dow, President and CEO of the U.S. Travel Association. "In part, it's because 'busyness' is something we wear as a badge of honor." Clearly, we need to work harder about working smarter -- by not working all the time. The "work martyr" complex needs to go the way of the Dictaphone, typewriter and green eyeshades as relics of the workplace of the past (okay, I like typewriters, but you get the idea).
Once I let go of the unreasonable desire for perfection, I actually noticed where I was: breathing in slightly-salty ocean air, engulfed in ancient and mossy trees, smelling kind of bad and not caring, watching the sun dip into the Pacific.
Today, with women's roles expanding and becoming more complex, the struggle to find work-life balance has become a significant challenge. Now more than ever, the idea of "good enough" has great relevance and can serve as an important and comforting reminder that not only is perfection an illusion, but ultimately it does not support our children in their efforts toward successful independence.
Truth: Family vacations are a whirlwind of frantically keeping your people entertained and happy when what you want is to be bored. Just for 10 minutes. One minute. One second.
By their very nature, women are nurturers and tend to give out more than they receive. Soul time is important for women to stay connected within. If women can make soul time a part of their daily life they will have happier lives and be more fulfilled in their relationships.
I don't know how else to explain the experience besides saying we put a pause on real life and took a break. We let ourselves immerse in nothing but fun and joy and forgot about everything else temporarily.
You might be wondering, How could I possibly laugh when life knocks me down? Whether you have a bad day or experience a catastrophic life event, there's a pretty thin line between tragedy and comedy.
Society says we must drive ourselves into the ground to get the things we want done. But this only shuts us down and makes life hard. It is only when we allow ourselves to be on an adventure, following the guidance of our hearts, that we truly open up to magic and miracles!
Giving can be more than donating money, more than volunteering time and expertise. Giving can be a way of living. Here's my epiphany: I can "bes...
The key to meditation is not quantity but consistency. Rather than picking a specific time to meditate daily, add meditation to your regular routine. And at the end of each meditation, take a moment to say thank you to yourself for taking time to get still today.
Let's face it, sometimes, you feel like this: All blissed-out in your happy baby pose. But more often than not, you probably feel like this: ...
Travel-proofing your meditation is easier that you think. The motto is, "Do something at least every couple of days." This is enough to keep you going through travel time and to pick up your daily routine once back home.
Because of the "shut down" nature of the school calendar, it is easy for us to quickly engage in similar mental cessation at this time. In fact, many of our colleagues seek to completely shift out of teacher mode during the summer. In my humble view, this is a mistake.