This type of hair-bullying is not just present in the media. It is present in our homes as learned self-hatred manifests in comments to little girls with looser textures that they have "pretty hair," while little girls with kinkier hair textures are told that they have "bad hair."
Hair relaxers contain a cocktail of harsh chemicals that can be absorbed through the skin of your vulnerable scalp, so for your sake and baby's, it's best to err on the side of caution and whip your hair back and forth au natural throughout your pregnancy.
For many natural women today, self-confidence trumps racial pride and self-discovery takes priority over sisterhood. Convenience, time management, budget and health are on women's long and diverse lists of reasons to go natural.
My mother was my first hair stylist. Like so many African American girls, the experience of our mothers doing our hair in the kitchen is one of our first memories. I can't imagine myself with a head full of curls.