Women like me face Mother's Day with shades of shame, despair and silence. So, I would like to take this opportunity to speak up and share with those who know someone who has infertility or are experiencing it themselves. Here is what I wish someone had told me about about the disease.
It took us long time to get pregnant with Molly. Not a long, long time, but long enough. Long enough to start to get used to the knot in my stomach every month as I counted the days and the symptoms, trying not to convince myself that every little twinge of nausea was a good sign.
Having infertility can feel embarrassing and isolating, but you can help your friends feel less misunderstood and alone by resolving to know more about infertility this week, April 20-26, during National Infertility Awareness Week.
One in 8 couples struggle to have children and build their families due to the disease of infertility. This statistic represents a colleague, a friend in your book club, a couple at your Thanksgiving dinner table.
Did you know that 1 in 8 couples struggle to have children and build their families due to the disease of infertility? This statistic represents a colleague, a friend in your book club, a couple at your Thanksgiving dinner table.
"In general, infertility is now a subject that can be talked about. But when I came into the field there was lots of secrecy around the subject of infertility. People would even keep their infertility from their relatives."
In my case, the glitch is declining egg quality, but I know other, younger mamas who can't seem to make a second baby either. It's wildly frustrating. And it hurts not to be able to create the family you envisioned.
Be honest. You've played this game, haven't you? Someone tells you something awful, and you immediately weigh it against your own experience of loss (even if you do have the good grace to not openly play your tragedy trump card).