When we leave the moment by getting distracted by our thoughts, we lose the opportunity to experience what it feels to really be alive. We can easily get caught fixating about a past hurt or worrying about a future concern. But when we can bring our focus back to this moment, we have the opportunity to heal.
Try not to set yourself up -- pick good people to share your vulnerabilities and your heart with. Slowly you will gain momentum and find that as you trust yourself more you will trust others more and then one day you'll find you are speaking to or acting with the bus driver or a stranger with the same heart and vulnerable realness as you would your bestie.
The joy of taking loving action in your own behalf, of feeling filled with love from Spirit and sharing that love with others is indescribable. Once you discover it, you will no longer attach your happiness and safety to others or to events. Happiness and a deep sense of inner safety can become your way of being, whether you are alone or with others.
I am losing weight so I can hike with my kids by Mother's Day. I am having back to back Tinder dates because I am finding My Person this year. I am studying Math 101 so I can feel smart. I am reading this book so I do not get kicked out of bookclub. I am dancing so I can feel the Angels when I move.
Life is a wild adventure. Just remember to buckle up, check your mirrors and purposefully move toward your destination. There is no complete control or omniscient knowing of what's to come; yet there is deep, passionate awareness when we choose among the many directions we can take each day towards creating inner calm.