You won't find your ideal partner by being who you think they want you to be. Now, don't get me wrong... you may get them in the heat of the moment. But this will ultimately lead you into a fantasy of a relationship that leaves you feeling unfulfilled and unseen further down the road. That only leaves you with one other choice...be yourself.
For those of you who know me well, you'll know that I am on a quest for a goalless life, as it seems to me that happiness all to often sits on the other side of achieving goals. What is needed from us all now, more than ever, is for us to be present and live in the now. It sounds easy, but in reality it can be the hardest thing we do.
At the end of the day, we cannot give what we do not have. Building the skill of compassionate self awareness is the first step in building more authentic and connected relationships with others. Just as the philosophers have proposed that being altruistic is ultimately always selfish, perhaps sometimes being selfish is ultimately altruistic!