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Self Control

Lashing Out Is Losing Control; Calmness Is Strength and Power

Richard Kronick | Posted 11.18.2015 | Healthy Living
Richard Kronick

A voice within me asked, "Who was the stronger man?" and chills slowly crept up my spine as I realized that it was, in fact, my father. While the other man had allowed his rage to overcome him, my father had controlled himself.

How to Deal With a Frustrating Email

Andrew Merle | Posted 10.13.2015 | Healthy Living
Andrew Merle

We have all been there before. An email comes in that makes your blood boil. Someone got their facts wrong, or accused you of something you didn't do, or asked a question that just rubbed you the wrong way. Whatever it was about, the email had you fuming.

Parents Who Are Screaming on the Inside While Being Calm on the Outside

Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. | Posted 09.21.2015 | Parents
Laurie Hollman, Ph.D.

Once your calm is felt by your child, it's sometimes startling how the child perceives your love and care. They know their behavior upsets you and sense your huge effort to be there for them. That's when they may begin to share that something is troubling them.

5 Steps to Self Mastery for Success and Happiness

Jennie Lee | Posted 08.21.2015 | Healthy Living
Jennie Lee

We can infer then that happiness is enabled by an ability to create at will what we need, mentally, emotionally and materially. Although this sounds like a hybrid of the Law of Attraction and great portfolio management, to measure success in this way is really determined by our levels of willpower and self-control, which when combined lead us to self-mastery.

Lights Go On: Part LXV -- Free Will

Thomas Bähler | Posted 06.28.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Thomas Bähler

How many times a day do we choose? we choose what time to arise we choose how to start our day what to drink what to eat what to wear who to ...

A Positive Psychology Approach to Success

Justin Harmon | Posted 06.21.2015 | Healthy Living
Justin Harmon

It's not that we're unhappy. It's not because of an underlying mental disorder or anything like that. We just want to be happier than we are now. We want change for the betterment of our lives. The only problem is that most people aren't comfortable with change. Change can be hard.

Gratitude: Good For Your Wallet And Your Soul

David DeSteno | Posted 05.25.2015 | Healthy Living
David DeSteno

What these findings show is that gratitude can temporarily enhance self-control by decreasing desires for immediate gratification. Whereas feeling happy doesn't do much to increase patience, feeling grateful does.

How the Remote Can Teach Your Child Self-Control

Yvonne Gustafson | Posted 05.23.2015 | Parents
Yvonne Gustafson

To be successful with their day-to-day interactions with one another, kids need to be able to regulate their bodies. Using the remote as an analogy for body regulation is a perfect match for the concrete thinking skills of young minds.

Hard Work, Hard Times: Self-control and Joblessness

Wray Herbert | Posted 03.23.2015 | Science
Wray Herbert

Does self-discipline today really pay off later in life -- in jobs, paychecks, promotions and bonuses, professional prestige and wealth? Surprisingly, given the importance of employment to well-being and the global economy, the link between self-control and job success has not been thoroughly studied. Until now.

Four Telltale Signs You a Control Freak and How You Can Get off the "John Doe Control Freak Show"

Thuy Sindell | Posted 03.18.2015 | Business
Thuy Sindell

The common justification of the control freak is they want to make sure everything is as good or as successful as possible. It's one thing to be concerned and make sure things go well.

The Connected Parent Reset

Carrie Contey, Ph.D. | Posted 03.15.2015 | Parents
Carrie Contey, Ph.D.

Certain things your children do can really push your buttons. Things you never expected to drive you crazy suddenly cause extreme discomfort and annoyance. And then you react, and that comes with a whole slew of emotions and behaviors.

Is Obesity a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?

Wray Herbert | Posted 03.08.2015 | Science
Wray Herbert

Do some teens, because they embody the caricature of a fat person, literally grow into that caricature?

A Vulnerable Post About My Love Life

Christine Gutierrez | Posted 03.01.2015 | Women
Christine Gutierrez

If you've been following me on Instagram and Facebook (if you haven't, get your tush over!), you have probably seen me talk a lot about fierce love a...

Why We Make Bad Food Decisions, Even When We Know Better

The Huffington Post | Carolyn Gregoire | Posted 12.17.2014 | Science

When we opt for that last donut in the office kitchen rather than eat the apple brought in from home, our brains are actually making some important mi...

What I Have Learned About Letting Go

Christine Gutierrez | Posted 02.07.2015 | Women
Christine Gutierrez

It's important to not set up false expectations on life, because then you set yourself up for unrealistic expectations, get discouraged and give up.

Mindful Strategies: Leading Me to a Place of Calm

Susie Wolbe | Posted 01.13.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Susie Wolbe

I have broken a really bad habit, and replaced it, mindfully, with a plan that allows me to avoid the inappropriate and irrational and, instead, be thoughtful, calm, and reasonable.

'Mommy, Are You Eating Chocolate?'

Samaneh Kleopatra Zarabi | Posted 01.11.2015 | Parents
Samaneh Kleopatra Zarabi

Damn it, I was busted. He interrupted me exactly at the moment I was just about to bite a crunchy chocolate caramel (one of the only sweets I eat happens to be a Swedish Chocolate, which is a rare find in Cleveland!).

3 Ways to Attract Healthy Love Into Your Life

Christine Gutierrez | Posted 12.28.2014 | Women
Christine Gutierrez

You deserve to be treated with love, honor, and respect. Never settle for less and continue walking toward actions that lead you closer and closer to healthy love.

Make it, Spend it: Is There a Better Way?

Jim Gibson | Posted 12.27.2014 | Money
Jim Gibson

Would you believe that, despite all the protests, all the negative media attention and all that, it really isn't the economy's fault, stupid? Guess wh...

Halloween Hangover

Lori Ferraro | Posted 12.22.2014 | Women
Lori Ferraro

For someone who has issues with food, the span between Halloween and Christmas is awesome and brutal for obvious reasons, but for an all-or-nothing type of gal like me, Halloween candy is the worst. And the best. And the worst.

How Doing Dishes Can Help You Lose Weight

Caroline Kaufman, RDN | Posted 12.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Caroline Kaufman, RDN

Here's the secret: Self-control is like a muscle. And the more you use it, the more self-control you'll have, and the easier it will be to exert it.

Tapped Out Teens: 4 Stress Relief Strategies That Work

Paula Davis-Laack | Posted 12.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Paula Davis-Laack

Not ready to try meditation? Try to practice slowing your breathing down to four to six breaths per minute. Regular practice of this technique has been shown to build both your stress resilience and your willpower reserve.

The Personality Trait That Will Make You A Successful Midlifer

Susan Krauss Whitbourne | Posted 12.12.2014 | Fifty
Susan Krauss Whitbourne

In midlife, people can become so overwhelmed with multiple demands on their time that they can't get started on anything, much less those tasks that they need to get through somehow. You've got to get stuff done at work, pick up your kids, finish cleaning out your closets, maybe head to the gym, and get dinner on the table.

This Is Your Brain On Email

Emma Seppälä, Ph.D | Posted 12.11.2014 | Healthy Living
Emma Seppälä, Ph.D

Before you contemplate moving to a farm, selling your smartphone on eBay, raising chickens and goats and cutting technology out of your life forever despite your love of selfies, WAIT -- there's a solution.

Apple or Ice Cream? The Mechanics of a Healthy Choice

Wray Herbert | Posted 11.30.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

Why is dietary self-control so difficult, even when we know full well what's at stake and what's right? It's not helpful at all to say simply that some people have more willpower. What's going on, at the most fundamental cognitive level, that leads to good and bad dietary decisions?