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Self Criticism

Hindu Pride and the Future of Hinduism

Anantanand Rambachan | Posted 07.01.2015 | Religion
Anantanand Rambachan

We are not flawless and the Hindu past is not unblemished. The future of our tradition, however, is not contingent on a perfect past or on immunity to criticism in the present. It depends on its ability to address human problems and to promote the flourishing of all human beings.

Loving Your Body Doesn't Mean What You Think

Kimber Simpkins | Posted 04.06.2015 | Women
Kimber Simpkins

The mind is afraid that if you love the body as it is, you will no longer listen to it -- you'll no longer listen to reason. But the not so secret truth that the mind likes to conveniently forget is that it's not separate from the body.

Omitting the 'Obnoxious Roommate'

Naomi Firestone | Posted 12.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Naomi Firestone

Once I understood the alien point of view toward myself, I had to expel it! It has been extremely helpful to make the voice conscious.

Judgement: Why it Sucks

Sue France | Posted 12.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Sue France

Although I am now a world away from that awkward little girl, I do still feel like her sometimes... but of course I do. She is me and will always be a part of me. My job is to love her and accept her, and reassure her that she is just fine as she is.

33 Days to More Well-Being: A Special Offer for HuffPost Readers

Arianna Huffington | Posted 10.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Arianna Huffington

Wherever I go around the world, I see the same hunger to live our lives with more meaning and purpose and less unnecessary stress and burnout. This is the goal of "33 Days of Awakening Through Loyalty to Your Soul," a new online course being offered by the University of Santa Monica, which I'm delighted we have arranged to offer free for HuffPost readers. The class is designed so that on each day of the course, the intention for the day is supported with meditations, videos, podcasts and other resources that help us go deeper. Each day's email has a theme: clarifying our intentions, accepting what we cannot change, putting our thoughts in writing to help us forgive ourselves and others, writing out a gratitude list, dropping grudges and -- my favorite -- realizing that the way we deal with the issue is the issue. When we make these habits part of our daily practice, we can view ourselves and the world with more awareness and more gratitude.

The Right Answer I Almost Didn't Give My Daughter

Karen Mangiacotti | Posted 08.31.2014 | Parents
Karen Mangiacotti

My brows furrowed, my mind raced. Are you kidding me? I thought. Are you really setting the bar that low?

How To Silence Your Inner Critic

Erin Cox | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Erin Cox

Self-doubt lives in nearly all human beings, but we need to keep it in check and have some strategies in place to move forward despite those thoughts and feelings.

Why Diets Fail: 7 Things You Should Know (Part 2)

David Bedrick | Posted 10.12.2013 | Healthy Living
David Bedrick

Our bodies are intelligent. While we spend much of our time trying to get our bodies to conform to our desires, we actually need to spend more time having our desires conform to the wisdom of our bodies.

Why Diets Fail: 7 Things You Should Know (Part 1)

David Bedrick | Posted 10.07.2013 | Healthy Living
David Bedrick

Through my research and work with clients, I have learned seven essential insights about people who pursue a weight loss goal. In this three-part series, I discuss those insights and begin answering the question no doubt on many of your minds: What to do instead of diet?

A Broken Collarbone on the Path to Inner Peace

Shayne Hughes | Posted 09.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Shayne Hughes

My bike crash came at the tail end of the most distressing six months of my professional career. As my dad and I later discussed his outburst, I recognized that feelings of inadequacy and powerlessness had literally pushed me over the edge.

Renee Jain: Why Being Selfish Is the Most Unselfish Thing You Can Do: The Martyr Mentality Myth

Renee Jain | Posted 08.13.2013 | Women
Renee Jain

By making space for the imperfect, to recognize that we won't always be able to 'hold it together,' we are better able to feel connected to others when we fail or go through a period of suffering

Your Self-Concept Is Your Destiny

Maddisen K. Krown | Posted 07.09.2013 | Healthy Living
Maddisen K. Krown

The simple truth is this: Our self-concept is our destiny. So if we want to change our destiny for the better, we need to change our concept and beliefs about our selves also for the better. We always have the freedom to choose better thoughts.

The Reality of Beating Yourself Up, Jillian-Style

Jean Fain, L.I.C.S.W., M.S.W. | Posted 05.13.2013 | Healthy Living
Jean Fain, L.I.C.S.W., M.S.W.

Weight loss by criticism is more than TV reality, it's the American way. If you want your body to be all that it can be, you can enlist a relentless trainer or do the job yourself. After all, you are your own worst critic. Here's the problem with berating yourself thin: It only gets you so far.

Stop 'Shoulding' On Yourself

Andrea Wachter | Posted 05.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Andrea Wachter

Why do so many of us feel compassion and kindness toward others but then turn inward with a whip of self-criticism and perfectionism?

A Positive Take On Making Mistakes

Mike Robbins | Posted 01.02.2013 | Healthy Living
Mike Robbins

While mistakes aren't a huge issue in my life, I actually spend and waste a lot of time worrying about making mistakes, and also find myself being unnecessarily critical of those around me when they make mistakes (both overtly and covertly).

Why Love Doesn't Necessarily Conquer All

Jezebel | Posted 07.05.2012 | Women

"I have so much love to give." Few things could be more obvious than to point out that young women are hard on themselves. Self-criticism (often as...

10 Steps To Get Your Creative Juices Flowing

John Seed | Posted 08.18.2012 | Healthy Living
John Seed

Of course we all need criticism to guide us, and a healthy creative process has to include a time to solicit, consider and absorb criticism. However, there is real value in banishing criticism -- including self-criticism -- as you establish your creative process.

How To 'Chill' With Your Inner Critic

Chela Davison | Posted 08.15.2012 | Healthy Living
Chela Davison

Most people have never been treated as poorly by another human being as they have by the voices in their own heads. So what are we to do with this voice? What's this voice for?

Have Compassion For Your Inner Critic: The Reasons Why We Beat Our Selves Up

Kristin Neff | Posted 08.10.2012 | Healthy Living
Kristin Neff

Don't beat yourself up for beating yourself up in the vain hope that somehow it will help you stop beating yourself up. Instead, take a step back and give your inner critic some slack. In its ineffective, counterproductive way, your inner critic is actually trying to keep you safe.

Be Kind to Others to Be Kind to Yourself

Lily Zweig | Posted 07.17.2012 | Teen
Lily Zweig

The flaws we denounce in those around us -- the fingers we choose to point -- often reflect back on the things we loathe about ourselves.

Taking a Permanent Vacation

Jennifer Hamady | Posted 03.19.2012 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Hamady

There is nothing like a vacation. The to-do lists go away, the nagging "should" voices quiet, and time seems to slow down.

Letting Go of Comparisons. Enough Already!

Agapi Stassinopoulos | Posted 01.31.2012 | Healthy Living
Agapi Stassinopoulos

I have found that one of the most self-binding and defeating habits that many of us have is the tendency to compare ourselves to others: comparing our physical appearance, material possessions, personal life, romantic relationships and career.

Soul-Talk: Are You Substituting Criticism For Caring?

Russell Bishop | Posted 12.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Russell Bishop

If you have a natural bent toward criticism, your favorite target is most likely your own self! If you are your own worst critic, then what you dish out to the rest of us probably doesn't even register as criticism.

Self-Criticism: A New Habit of Mind

Carla Seaquist | Posted 09.25.2011 | Politics
Carla Seaquist

Once again we do the rigid Kabuki dance, leading once again to political stalemate -- this time over raising the federal debt ceiling. Even with the ...

The Motivational Power Of Self-Compassion

Kristin Neff | Posted 07.29.2011 | Healthy Living
Kristin Neff

The number-one reason people give for why they aren't more self-compassionate is the fear that they will be too easy on themselves. But is self-criticism is really the great motivator it's cracked up to be? No.