The feeling of being so uncomfortable in my skin and feeling like I needed to be around people all the time to take a deep breath -- that was loneliness. The feeling of complete anxiety and fear when a boyfriend broke up with me -- that was loneliness. But this? This is peace. This is fun.
You can break the emotionally abusive cycle. How? By choosing to honor, love and respect yourself. By choosing to not only eliminate people and situations that are not for your highest good from your life but acknowledging how powerful you are.
Let's face it, there are some people who are completely comfortable when they're naked--and I'm not one of them. Most people would say I'm not a shy person, but in regards to taking it all off, I feel like I need a serious attitude adjustment.
I worked with John for several years, helping him navigate the treacherous waters of adolescence, and for as long as he could remember he had always wanted to bring together his love of numbers and sports, particularly baseball.
You don't have to spend any energy seeking compassion from others. It's right here for you, as available as the air you breathe. We live in an ocean of love and compassion. All you need to do is open your heart to it through your intention to be loving to yourself.
While I have been trying to nurture my daughter in modeling healthy attitudes about body image all she is hearing is static because I have portrayed just the opposite. She is learning to hate her body because she has listened to me speak negatively about my own.
Day 1 was rough. Awkwardness oozed from my lips as I stared into my eyes -- eyes that showed sadness, fatigue, loneliness, and guilt -- and uttered, "I love you." I felt like a used car salesman trying to unload a clunker to the girl in the mirror.
Very few things in adolescence are certain but there is one thing upon which most teenage girls agree, and that is, they must be sexy. They must wear the short shorts with their rear's hanging out to fit in and get attention.
It's good to see empirical support for familiar patterns that men and women often bring to psychotherapy. This can help them clarify how and why they perpetuate the negative relationships that they hope to heal; and what they need to deal with to bring about some positive movement.
How can we stop settling for less than what we know we deserve and give ourselves exactly what we know we really truly do deserve? Here are five steps. Get out a sheet of paper or journal to write out your answers to each of the steps below.
Confidence is aqueous and ever-changing. Just when you think you're grasping it in your hands, it can trickle through your fingers. I am reminded of this as I awkwardly haul a leg over the torso of my lover and sink into his chest as we sink deeper into the soft mattress in our room at the W.
What is it about judging you that makes me feel so good? It's really pretty simple: I get to feel better about who I am by beating the hell out of who you are. I'm scared and resentful. I'm angry, arrogant and uncomfortable. And I want relief!