When we take a close look at people we define as successful, we often discover that they have in fact reinvented themselves on more than one occasion. If you are serious about reinventing yourself, you need to be prepared for and ready to embrace change.
I have a four year-old and a one year-old and I can't imagine putting a relaxer in their hair because, like most kids their ages, they are busy-bodies. My mother relaxed my hair when I was four years old and my sister got her first relaxer when she was three. It really boggles my mind now.
ou'll start to see that your body type isn't being represented, anywhere. You will try to get a "bikini body" and wish that you could rock one -- if only you knew that you could all along! You'll develop an unhealthy relationship to food and your body
We can't prevent our mind from stirring up fear, doubt or self-criticism, but we can get skilled and smarter about how our thought process operates and how it triggers exaggerated degrees of emotion, increasing the likelihood that we'll feel bad about ourselves.
"We are all beautiful." "Everyone is beautiful to somebody." It's cheerful stuff. It builds the self-esteem, makes people feel valued, and spreads joy and happiness across the Internet. It's also bullcrap.
Two days before my mother died from cancer she asked, "You won't be contacting your father, will you?" They had been divorced 37 years but their animosity toward each other never waned. "Really? This isn't important right now mom."
A beautiful thing happened when I stopped caring about what everyone else thought; I experienced a rush of freedom! I was finally, after all those years, free to be who and what I was without worry and without pressure.
In an effort to better understand the reality of how distant Barbie is from the average woman, I created a parody featuring what her breasts might look like at her current age of 55-years-old. It's a sad, sad truth but as women age, their breasts go south.
Forgiveness is the gift you give to yourself. It's not for or about the other person. It releases you from the pain of staying bound up in the past. Blaming yourself or your former spouse serves no purpose in reinventing your life. It holds you back from enjoying today.
When we tell them they're the best at everything or the smartest of all, it creates a problem when they figure out they aren't. Let's not raise a bunch of ego maniacs who don't have the skills to live healthy rounded lives.
When your partner consistently avoids sex and intimacy, or on the rare occasion when they are willing, are obviously doing so reluctantly -- the accumulations of repeated rejections are likely to have a big impact on your self-esteem.
Running may be a sport made up of individuals, but it is the collaborative sense of accomplishing great things and reaching new physical and mental limits that binds us as a group. We love to support one another, so why can't we accept the support from others?
Why do women get breast implants? It's the number one cosmetic surgery in the U.S., even though it carries with it the burden of judgment and dismissal. So what's driving these women? Are they young and insecure? Superficial? Desperate?
You can be an original or you can be a copy. An original portrait with honest mistakes is worth more than a perfect replica. I urge you to be yourself. I urge you to accept your mistakes and shortcomings and live the life you were destined to.
I knew that if I continued my avoidant ways, I would not actualize my intention of creating a meaningful relationship with someone else. So I decided to open my heart, allow myself to be vulnerable and welcome the risk of hurt.
No matter what kind of upbringing you experienced or what kind of self-parenting style you have adopted up until now, it's never too late to treat yourself with compassion and kindness. By lovingly nurturing, encouraging, and motivating yourself, you can become the parent you always wanted.
The Gay Gospel is basically the soundtrack of my brain, which was created by living out my full decade of 20-somethings, having two years to distill and reflect on it and spending every night and day in the gay 20-something world right here in New York City.
When I was a kid growing up in Kenya, I imagined that one day I would step out of the closet and find a sense of brotherhood and belonging in the beautiful, rainbow flag-waving LGBT community. But the reality differed a great deal from my dreams.