The journey to body acceptance is a vigorous fight, and one that involves both genders. It requires both sexes to rise above the grossly defined standards for beauty and attractiveness. We can work together to create a world built in understanding of human depth and uniqueness and not on shallow evaluation of appearance.
Women in their 50s are in a precarious position of not being old enough to be seniors but too old to be considered youthful. In many ways we're invisible. We are constantly in search of role models that represent these "tweener" years. When you add curviness to the mix, the representation becomes even smaller and less flattering.
Long ago in graduate school, I learned that the individual speaks for the group as a whole. Whether it be in a work group or a community group, each person's voice represents an expression of what others are not able to say. I learned that the dynamics of power organize to maintain one person's sense of superiority at the expense of another's.
This Thursday, April 22, will be the fourth Thursday of the month, which means it's Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day (a.k.a. TODAS). Kids will be trooping through workplaces around the country, sometimes hanging out with a parent, but more often enjoying a busy agenda of carefully planned, hands-on activities.
For me to spend ONE MINUTE obsessing about something as trivial as my weight is not just ridiculous, it's a bit obscene. In the way that having a bowling alley in a private home is a bit obscene. I was suddenly shocked at myself. That I would spend even one minute of this glorious life beating myself up seemed, at the very, very least, pitifully ungrateful.