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Self Hate

Why Your Many Fears Deserve Attention and Love

Aruna Evan | Posted 11.16.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Aruna Evan

Fear deserves as many distinct concepts and words as the Greeks have for love. Your friend says, "I love you" for the first time, and you might have to take a peek at his face to see what he really means.

Occasionally you realize someone you thought was a dear friend is actually a foe, their true character finally revealed. But how do you forgive the unforgivable? Here are my 10 steps to handling betrayal with elegance and grace.

Jane Simon, M.D. | Posted 06.24.2015 | Healthy Living
Jane Simon, M.D.

My last blog addressed the topic of a self-hate attack--a sudden, intense mental episode of self-condemnation. Alternatively (or in addition) self-...

Skin Whitening: Independence From Racial Pigeonholing

Jeremy Bamidele | Posted 06.27.2015 | Black Voices
Jeremy Bamidele

As whiteness increases, the externally-imposed restrictions on one's identity decreases. It is this ability to be seen for one's identity as opposed to their race that minorities seek to attain when they engage in skin whitening.

Stop Hating Yourself Once and For All

Lisa Firestone | Posted 05.05.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

In truth, we don't need studies to tell us that a self-esteem deficit clearly exists in our society. Just talk to any teenager, or small child for that matter, and ask them if there is something that they feel critical of in themselves. The answers are sure to shock you.

3 Steps to Experience the Perfect Imperfect Moment

Lisa Firestone | Posted 01.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Life is too precious to waste it lost in our heads, evaluating ourselves, one step removed from our own experience. We can more fully live our life by paying attention to our senses and being willing to feel what we are actually experiencing at any given moment in time.

Omitting the 'Obnoxious Roommate'

Naomi Firestone | Posted 12.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Naomi Firestone

Once I understood the alien point of view toward myself, I had to expel it! It has been extremely helpful to make the voice conscious.

4 Steps To Conquer Your Inner Critic

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.23.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When we fail to identify and separate from this inner critic, we allow it to impact our behavior and shape the direction of our lives. So how can we challenge this inner voice?

Hung Up on Our Bullies: Internalized Transphobia

Laverne Cox | Posted 01.08.2012 | Gay Voices
Laverne Cox

There's a part of me that's always been envious of Jamie Clayton. You see, Jamie is one of those trans women who has never had trouble passing as a nontrans woman. This has never been the case for me.

Why Do Latinos Self-Hate?

Galina Espinoza | Posted 12.26.2011 | Latino Voices
Galina Espinoza

The details may change, but every Latino shares a version of the same story: that moment when another Latino attacked her . . . for not being Latino enough.

My Relationship with Food: A Reflection of Self

Jan Shepherd | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Jan Shepherd

I used to think that my remarkable ability to add and drop pounds at will was a function of my relationship with food. So I was as surprised as anyone to discover that it actually reflected my relationship with myself.