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Selfishness

How To Know When You're Talking To A Narcissist

The Huffington Post | Carolyn Gregoire | Posted 04.10.2015 | Science

Talking about yourself all the time might make you a jerk, but it doesn't necessarily make you a narcissist. Although it may seem logical to assume...

Are You Selfish or Self-Responsible?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.17.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Giving yourself up to avoid being called selfish is not self-responsible - it is manipulative and dishonest. When you give yourself up to avoid criticism, you are trying to control how another feels about you.

Selfish Love

Susanna Barkataki | Posted 03.11.2015 | Healthy Living
Susanna Barkataki

Instead of looking for love that is unhealthy, or in all the wrong places, or giving in to something that feels manufactured or fake, or simply going the other direction and cynically resisting love altogether, I'm going to try a middle way.

Get Out of Yourself

Wendy Lustbader | Posted 03.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Wendy Lustbader

One of the chief cruelties of depression is how it encloses us in a dark tunnel, a space that doesn't extend beyond the borders of ourselves, our thwa...

Freedom Isn't Free

Rev. James Ellis, III | Posted 04.08.2015 | Religion
Rev. James Ellis, III

Maybe more than ever the cry for freedom is a common, reoccurring refrain everywhere you go today. We fiercely advocate for sexual freedom, arguing th...

Campfires, Socialism, and Multi-Level Selection

Joel Tauber | Posted 04.12.2015 | Arts
Joel Tauber

I'm certainly grateful that I have biological impulses to act altruistically, but I'm also aware that I can't rely on them. They won't free me of the fundamental conflict between altruism and selfishness that is wired into my DNA, and they won't enable me to reach beyond my current limitations.

How to Thrive in 2015: Are You Selfish Enough?

Lucie Lincoln | Posted 02.16.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Lucie Lincoln

Whatever they are, try and carve out time for this self-care, and when the selfishness question rears its head, gently remind it you are looking after number one, so you're number one at looking after the world.

Tears of the Clown

Melanie Young | Posted 10.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Melanie Young

What's important is that we all learn to use our senses to be more sensitive to those people in our lives who may need help but don't have the capacity to ask for it. Look for signs such as changes in behavior. Listen to what he or she is saying.

5 True Story Tips for Starting Your Own Small Business

Carlota Zimmerman | Posted 09.29.2014 | Small Business
Carlota Zimmerman

If you have an idea for a business, before you get hung up on being perfectly situated, or reading every business book in the market, or getting certified as an entrepreneur (a hilarious contradiction-in-terms!)... just do it. Just start the damn business.

5 Ways to Instill Compassion in Your Children

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 09.24.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jim Taylor

As your children expand their social world, the messages from others become increasingly influential. You can actively create a critical mass of people and institutions that will support and reinforce your messages of compassion.

Finding Our Way: Making Our Own Sense Out of the Time We Have Left

Martha Nelson | Posted 09.21.2014 | Fifty
Martha Nelson

For what may be the first time in our lives, we can decide how the day goes. The simple question is: Where do we begin?

Is Not Wanting Kids Selfish?

Bret Spears | Posted 09.17.2014 | Parents
Bret Spears

People have had children to secure marriages and to save them, to bolster an identity and belong, to vouchsafe their virility, out of blind Darwinian compulsion and entirely by accident

Why Our Need for Closure Makes Us Selfish

Mark Travis Rivera | Posted 09.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Mark Travis Rivera

The ending of any kind of relationship can be difficult but I am a firm believer that every season ends so that something more beautiful can bloom. View every ending as an opportunity to start over, renewed, with a clean slate.

5 Ways to Deal With a Narcissist

Vanessa Van Edwards | Posted 08.30.2014 | Women
Vanessa Van Edwards

Narcissists can be a pain to deal with because they don't always make good partners or friends. So let's talk about what to do if you have a narcissist in your life.

Is Compassion Children's Most Admirable Quality?

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 08.30.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jim Taylor

We are assured by experts that compassion is hardwired into all human beings because such qualities help us to become functioning members of society. But, if you're like me, you would swear that children are born without an ounce of compassion in them.

When Being Selfish Is A Good Thing

Kait Sawyer | Posted 08.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Kait Sawyer

The reality is that to be truly happy, you need to put "you" first sometimes. If that means being selfish, do so with a smile on your face. Am I saying to ignore others or how they feel, always choose yourself or become completely inconsiderate 100-percent of the time? Absolutely not -- life is about balance.

Yes, Your Child Is Special... Just Like Everyone Else's

Anne Josephson | Posted 08.06.2014 | Parents
Anne Josephson

Loving our children fiercely neither grants us a free pass to act as if we are the only people who adore our children nor does it give us a "get out of jail free" card to abuse teachers, coaches and other parents. Principles like fairness and respect still apply to us, even when we love our children so much we can scarcely see straight.

On the Journey Towards Sincerity

Umar Zulqarnain | Posted 07.27.2014 | Religion
Umar Zulqarnain

While working on our own sincerity, we have to realize that the reality is, we will rarely meet sincere people. We will rarely meet people who will genuinely step out of themselves to attempt to see things from our perspective and act accordingly.

Questions I Would Ask

William B. Bradshaw | Posted 07.24.2014 | Education
William B. Bradshaw

As the school year ends for all levels of education, I want to put forward one final quiz especially for our high school and college students to answer. If you do not know the answer to a question, just move quickly to the next one.

Tax the Rich or Kill the Poor

Paul Steven Stone | Posted 07.15.2014 | Politics
Paul Steven Stone

If you accept one basic premise -- that wealth is finite -- then all the financial, economic and social upheaval in our country starts to make sense. There isn't enough to go around when one sector gets a lock-tight grip on the purse and the purse strings.

What's Great About Kids Today

Colleen Turner | Posted 07.14.2014 | Fifty
Colleen Turner

Bullying behaviors do not last long when a child's peer group appreciates the importance of respecting themselves and others

The One Selfish Thing Each Busy Mom Should Do Now to Have No Regrets Next Year

Kat Bern | Posted 07.12.2014 | Women
Kat Bern

Think of the first step you would have to take for your dream to come true and then do it! Putting your dream on the to-do list will actually ensure that you are not going to forget about it or put it on the back burner.

My Team's Selfishness is Great for Our Clients

Stacy Crinks | Posted 07.07.2014 | Business
Stacy Crinks

I encourage each person on my team to selfishly (openly, honestly) communicate where, when, and on what she'd like to work, so we can together create a work experience that she loves.

7 Mistakes You Can Make When It Comes To Trust

Rory Vaden | Posted 06.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Rory Vaden

Trust isn't developed from the absence of conflict, but from developing a healthy process for resolving it. Show me you have the courage to work through our problems and you'll always have my trust.

Dear Family Whisperer: My Son Is Selfish!

Melinda Blau | Posted 06.24.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

Be explicit. When you hold your own "I" in check, help him notice: "Waiting on this line is so annoying. I feel like yelling at the lady behind the counter, but she's doing her best. Besides, I'm not the only one who has to wait."