When couples are younger I think they look at sex like fast food -- get as much as you can as often as you can. Just gorge yourself on it. But as you get older you discover that if you learn relax, with food and sex, the pleasure can be indescribable. You learn sex is like a fine meal, something to be slowly savored, not gobbled on the run.
In my work teaching older adults, I listen to their issues, guide them in living healthier lives, and build their confidence to keep them moving strong. I feel I have an honored role. Together we sort out what matters most in their lives, and find solutions to help them live full, enriched, independent lives. In return, I receive their joy and wisdom.
The contrarian in me resists making any resolutions. Most just make me feel guilty because I fail to meet my own expectations. My philosophy these days is to enjoy what I am doing and not push myself to the point of crankiness. But I do have a resolution of sorts that has nothing to do with diet, exercise or career goals. It has to do with gratitude.
The period beginning with Thanksgiving and ending with New Year's is the busiest long-distance travel season of the year. This means that many of us will see relatives for the first time in many months. Use holiday family gatherings as an opportunity to look closer, listen harder and determine if your help is needed.