There's nothing like a hospital stay, a suspicious spot on a CT scan or pre-cancerous polyps to poke the control-freaking bear that's been sitting in the corner. And even when the suspicious spot is nothing or the polyps are removed, it doesn't take away the emotional hurricane that just hit shore.
Mindfulness is all the rage these days -- and many people use this term interchangeably with the word "meditation." While there are forms of meditation that invoke mindfulness, we can also practice mindful awareness in everyday activities and interactions.
Fortunately, most of us don't suffer from an incurable disease and simply have to modify our attitudes to overcome setbacks. In our daily lives, the big question is: What should I accept and what can or should I choose to change?
Our ancestors had a spirituality of storms that we are in danger of losing today. They accepted that they were not in control of their environment, knowing that destroying storms would certainly pass by.
When in doubt, forget all the rules, the seven- or nine- or 50-point lists, the how-to guides and the self-help books, the therapeutic techniques, the TED talks, the recipes and formulas... and just love.
Let go of the sense of wanting to change something and the unwanted pictures about it that you were holding in mind will dissolve, and then you'll courageously move into action to make the changes that are necessary.
The need for reconciliation is at the heart of the Gospel message, and it is at the heart of Twelve Step recovery as well. Without reconciliation, a right relationship with God -- and peace of mind -- is not possible.
In our 24/7 world we are all moving to get in front of the curve -- not to halt lest the others rush by. Why in the world with early voting starting and decisions being made should anyone slow down, much less halt?
Mishka Shubaly's writing grabs you by your neck, his thumb fingering the delicate pulse by your throat. He's going to tell you about himself, and the reason you can't stop reading? It's because he also seems to know a thing or two about your inner life.
What's actually going on in the mind of an alcoholic as he or she goes through the process of recovery? What are the cognitive mechanics underlying the initial, angry rebelliousness and, later, the genuine commitment to a sober life?
Americans cannot change the past. We've killed Bin Laden but that alone won't heal us. Now Americans must acquire the courage to make the changes we can make: rebuild our battered psyches and our economy.