Show up. Walk into your bedroom. Shut the door. Lock the door. Lower the lights. And climb into bed with an open mind. The rest will take care of itself.
I am a healthy 58-year-old woman married for 32 years. Up until the age of 48 or so, my husband and I enjoyed an active sex life, two or three times a week. Then things tapered off to where we can go months without really touching beyond hugging and giving each other a little peck on the lips.
News flash: The latest effort to boost female desire with a pill is a flop. No surprise to me. I've been there, done that, did it years ago. Here's my story; it begins with a bath. Next, a half hour to dither between dresses, and then a half hour for make up. Finally, the perfume, wait ... I need perfume ... for a phone call?
When it comes to dating and romance now, what differences would a single Dad in his 50s encounter compared to his single son in his 20s? In other words, how might it go when a dad and his son sit down to openly compare notes about what's happening with the women in their lives?
Christian Grey as a leading man got as many things right as he got wrong. After all, women couldn't put this book down right? Christian Grey could teach any man a few important tips to bring into his relationship if he is passionate around sex.
Voicemail. Leaving a message required me to put myself on the line and a Heimlich-maneuver-inducing swallowing of pride. 'Hello. It's me. I'd like to come back ... if you'll have me.'
His gifts to me are a book and a set of kitchen knives. I perform my best delighted act, but I can't see how you could give someone you love such an impersonal present. So I love him and he doesn't love me. A bit of an overreaction perhaps, but I definitely don't feel seen or known.
Even in couples that are 'happily married,' it certainly feels like a majority are mismatched sexually. Somebody -- often the husband, but definitely not always -- isn't happy.
Everyone wants to know the secret to a long life and a happy marriage. We're fascinated by it. If you live to be 100, there must be some secret to it. And if you stay married for 30, 40, 50 years or more, there has to be a magical spell that allows it to be so.
Maybe I am not as pretty as I once was. I have survived losses and betrayals I didn't expect and I have made some big whopper mistakes. But I am way more humble and believe far more in my own resiliency.
The dating game is a big challenge but not half as hard as meeting someone you really like and starting a deeper relationship. And weddings can stir a lot of things up, so don't go if you can't cope. I had no idea I would feel like this.
Henry and I had been married for 10 years when I made him meet me for a blind date. It came with a simple requirement: We had to pretend we didn't know each other. After initially balking, Henry agreed.
I'm thankful that we satisfy our sexual desires regularly, and make love as a slow waltz. And while I wouldn't use marathon to describe our sex life, it feels just right. I admire boomer women who know how to age gracefully, and these women have helped me smooth out the emotional aspects of my own aging process.
I'm having fortnightly dates with my millionaire, but since he's sexually reluctant I am also currently working four guys from an online dating site. They are Vice Man, Guitar Man, Brighton Boy and Home Boy.
Sex can get lost in the first Black Friday of the holiday season. The holidays can become all about this stressful rush to get to grandma's house and buy those grab bag gifts for the office. You get the idea. The holidays, which are meant to be about connection, can often be filled with disconnection, especially erotically.
Now, I am absolutely not a party girl. Unless there is a theme where I can lose myself a bit and I find fancy dress liberates you. The party's theme is 'zoo' and will be held in a swanky private members' club in London. A little animal action might not come amiss, I think, so I accept and focus on the outfit.