Sex without commitment can work if we believe it can, and we're clear ourselves as well as with our partners about the boundaries. Are we friends first, lovers second? Are we playing at romance, or refusing to let the relationship become romantic? Are the reasons that we want to be friends with benefits but not actual 'in-love' lovers clear and valid to both of us?
Since my last blog post, in which I introduced the term "sides" to describe gay men who simply don't prefer anal sex, I've received many emails from gay men who do prefer anal sex who describe the problems they encounter when they find themselves in bed with a side.
I used to think I loved iInternet dating, but then I realized I just loved drinking fancy wine that someone else was financing.
One thing I would say with absolute certainty is that in the area of female sexuality, men are not from Mars and women are not from Venus. They are from totally different galaxies.
Women who feel they have resources can emerge from marital wreckage intact. In particular, those with independent lives often benefit from the self-esteem that gives them an equal seat at the table in their own marriage.
Great sex happens when both parties are into it, and telling women that they need to offer more sex in order for their husbands to maintain a fighting weight and sunny disposition seems like a twisted way to incentivize the act. So please, Wall Street Journal, stop discussing sex as though it's a duty instead of a pleasure. That isn't good for anyone.
If you've been married for a long time, you can't expect your sex life to always be the way it is in the movie 'Nine ½ Weeks' -- a jello-filled-fun-fest -- because sometimes it's not. Sometimes, married sex is a little like...
Feeling fully seen, accepted, valued and cherished are really wonderful experiences, and these feelings can generate the kind of safety that leads to intimacy, spontaneity and aliveness in the relationship and in the bedroom.
Even momentarily concentrating on healthy solutions rewires psychological patterns to receive and share healthy sexual love in the present. Here are three meditations with the themes of virility, pace, and courtship for you to ponder and practice this week.
While having sex isn't any boomer's first rodeo, having wild monkey sex may be less familiar. What's wild monkey sex? Imagine the hottest sexual fantasies you ever conjured up, becoming your reality.
It's Saturday night, and I'm at a Silver Lake gay bar with some friends. Despite the packed room, my friend Zack is fixed to his iPhone. Our friends' nudges and pokes can't shift his eagle eyes from the warm, orange glow. What bothers us is Zack's inability to interact with his surroundings.
Religious conservatives' obsession with anal sex is particularly troubling when it's used to disguise negative visceral reactions as considered moral judgments -- in other words, when our opponents move from "that's yucky" to "that's wrong!" I confront that tendency in this video.
What if a guy isn't a top, a bottom or even versatile? What about gay men who have never engaged in anal sex and never will, ever? I think they deserve a name of their own. I call them "sides," and they typically struggle with tremendous feelings of shame.
Let me start this article by saying that I want to share with you a book that has literally brought new life into this aging body, mind and soul of mine.
"Be no longer tender. Cover me with frenzied kisses -- even as I would drench my body in the cruel torrents of the rain. Envelop me from throat to ank...
"How do I know when I'm really in love?" "What does it mean to be in love?" "I think I'm in love, but then I have doubts." Such a big question! And we all wish there was an easy answer -- a formula we could follow to determine if we are in love.