This Tuesday on February 24, 2015, "the kinky film festival" CineKink NYC opens its 12th season. On occasion of my own film being in this year's lineup, I asked CineKink founder Lisa Vandever these 7 questions.
Psychologists tell us that denial is the mind's first defense mechanism against anxiety. So, what exactly, are we so afraid of? And, exactly what kind of harm do we fear?
Kundalini: It's not a pasta. The Sanskrit root of the word means coiled or spiral. The image of a snake piled on itself or two snakes rising is used to depict this reservoir of energy at the base of the spine.
When Lindin was 11, she was branded a "slut" by her classmates and was bullied at school, after school and online. During all this, she kept a regular diary. Now a Harvard graduate pursuing her Ph.D. in California, Emily started The UnSlut Project by blogging her own middle school diaries.
By only focusing on the above mentioned models of sex and disability, and glorifying the sex worker as a saint of sorts for providing such an invaluable experience, we are again placing people with disabilities at a disadvantage.
Trafficking and prostitution will always exist in some form, even the most ardent abolitionist would not suggest otherwise. But we can't simply stand by and allow traffickers to continue profiting from within the darker recesses of the internet.
As a sexual health educator and psychotherapist, it may or may not surprise you to know that I went to see Fifty Shades of Grey. I've always been inc...
Look. No one wants to hear what they can or cannot do with their body. We came by free will in the hardest way and we feel like we've earned it. "This is my life!" But, the whole free will thing isn't without its catches.
If you're skeptical about the movie being true to the book, and the actors doing justice with their interpretation of the characters, the best thing you can do is remain as open-minded as possible. Otherwise, you run the risk of shortchanging yourself as well as the leads in the film.
What are we doing to ourselves? When did the act of warm, caramelly, intimate sex become considered so vanilla, so mundane and outdated, that we're pushed to push the odd items into our orifices, with abandon and to our own bodily harm, just to achieve the sensation of pleasure?
Those years between 13 and 18 certainly weren't easy, were they? It's amazing that we got through them. Some of us got through them relatively unscathed, while others are still self-conscious about the very issues that we got teased about back then
Only Hollywood would turn sadomasochism, a complicated sexual performance, into a white college girl's extracurricular activity. And only whiteness would allow for the whipping to be seen as elective in a coming-of-age narrative rather than as unavoidable in the violent history of slavery.
Your partner is feeling frisky, but you aren't. Or you really want to do it, but you're too tired or too stressed or too something else. Turn that downtown frown around with any of these MiddleSexy recommendations for getting yourself in the mood.
By his own account, Marty is "fat and ugly, fat and ugly." To complete the picture, he's a hesitant never-been-married gap-toothed 34-year-old Bronx butcher who still lives with his mother.
For the people screaming that the series glorifies BDSM, I can only assume you haven't read to the end. Christian Grey's predilections are presented as a "sickness" that Anastasia "cures" him of. She doesn't just roll over and say "yes, master."
We should have been in a good place. We weren't. I'd limited myself. I'd held back big parts of me in the six weeks we'd been dating -- an older couple who'd come together with surprise and a lot of 'like' going on.