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Sexual Identity

Why Millennials Have Such A Different Attitude Toward Sexual Identity

The Huffington Post | Kira Brekke | Posted 08.22.2015 | Gay Voices

Bisexual, pansexual, demiromantic, aromantic -- the sexual identities with which people label themselves continue to become more d...

Biphobia Is a Destructive Force in Our Community -- And It Needs to Stop

Neil Endicott | Posted 08.11.2015 | Gay Voices
Neil Endicott

Biphobia pushes many of us to hide in the closet to avoid ridicule and rejection. It can affect our well-being and sense of identity. Looking back on my own experience, some relatively small incidences of biphobia had a large and negative effect on my life.

Donald Trump Is an Asterisk

Steve Nelson | Posted 08.10.2015 | Entertainment
Steve Nelson

It was a sultry day in 1980, give or take a year. My wife, our two children and I were east of Cleveland on I90 in the family car, returning from a ...

How Model AzMarie Livingston Broke Out Of The Butch/Femme Binary

The Huffington Post | Kira Brekke | Posted 06.24.2015 | Gay Voices

When 28-year-old model AzMarie Livingston came out as a lesbian nearly 15 years ago, she said she felt pressure to fit within the femme-butch binary t...

How Bruce Jenner's Story Allowed Me to Finally See My Own

Dori Hartley | Posted 06.27.2015 | Impact
Dori Hartley

After seeing Bruce Jenner's outstanding interview last night with Diane Sawyer, I felt so tightly locked on to some of the things he said that I couldn't shake the feeling of pure truth in his words. I related to that truth in my own life's experience.

I'm Married To A Man. Does That Mean I'm Not Bisexual Anymore?

YourTango | Posted 06.27.2015 | Women

While society is quick to label us in nearly every way, the way we label ourselves is much more telling.

Here Are The Most Common Questions About The Trans Community, Answered

Scout, Ph.D. | Posted 06.25.2015 | Gay Voices
Scout, Ph.D.

At every LGBTQ training I give, people are the most interested in one thing: trans people. So what is transgender? It's a persistent feeling that your gender does not match the sex you were assigned at birth. Evidence leads us to believe we are about .5 percent of the population, or one in every 200 people.

Black Colleges: Stop Discriminating Against LGBT

John Fitzgerald Gates, Ph.D. | Posted 12.16.2014 | Black Voices
John Fitzgerald Gates, Ph.D.

The reality is that most black colleges have not accepted sexual identity diversity as an issue with which they need to be concerned. A number of reasons have been suggested -- among these, a level of social and religious conservatism within the black community.

Pray the Shade Away

Greg Mania | Posted 11.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Greg Mania

For someone who has went from an 11-inch platinum blonde mohawk a la John Sex to black slicked-back greaser hair, going to get a drink at a gay nightclub in NYC is like trying to steal a coveted artifact from a museum in the middle of the night.

Judith Frank: Choosing Life

Nina Sankovitch | Posted 10.06.2014 | Books
Nina Sankovitch

In All I Love and Know, Judith Frank presents a family that, though scarred and scared, overcomes division and distrust to create their own kind of unity.

The Islamic Republic of Iran's Flavored Condoms, Free Vasectomies, and Gender Reassignment Surgery

Shermin Kruse | Posted 08.18.2014 | World
Shermin Kruse

When the Islamic Republic first took control of Iran from the Shah, the new regime decided population growth would be greatly in its advantage. After all, it was faced with a bloody war with neighboring Iraq.

It Turns Out My Partner Is a Woman, So What Does That Make Me?

Jason Rozek | Posted 04.30.2014 | Gay Voices
Jason Rozek

Eight months ago I pulled a bra out of the washing machine for the first time since breaking up with my college girlfriend and loudly coming out of the closet as a gay man a decade earlier. This bra belonged to someone I would have called my boyfriend a week earlier, before she came out to me as a transgender woman.

Gay Rights in Uganda: How It Reflects a Flaw in Our Discourse on Gay Rights

Udoka Okafor | Posted 04.20.2014 | Gay Voices
Udoka Okafor

The new discourse within the gay community should be one of a right to sexual autonomy, and unadulterated acceptance of one's sexuality.

Three Problems for Bisexuality

Victoria Bond | Posted 03.07.2014 | Gay Voices
Victoria Bond

Rabid and unfair, sexism and homophobia rev up fear of the bisexual traitor because we just won't pick a side, declare our allegiance. And in a way this seems truer now than ever.

Confusion Between 'Diverse Opinions' and 'Oppressive Characterizations'

Warren J. Blumenfeld | Posted 03.03.2014 | Religion
Warren J. Blumenfeld

Phil Robertson, of course, does not stand alone in employing religious texts and tenets, as well as his personal experiences (read as "historical revisions") to justify and rationalize his opinions and "values."

Better to Be Straight If You Can

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 02.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

I asked my lesbian mother whether she would prefer if I turned out gay or straight. We were in my loft bed: a private place at the top of the world, perfect for a hushed conversation like this. I was aware of the topic's sensitivity and I knew I'd put her in a bind.

I'm a Woman Who Loves a Woman, but Don't Call Me a Lesbian

Annie L. Scholl | Posted 02.04.2014 | Gay Voices
Annie L. Scholl

I'm a 50-year-old white mother of two adult children, twice married to men, who has been in a relationship with an African-American woman for nearly two years. I don't identify as bisexual. I also don't identify as a lesbian, even though I prefer sex with women to sex with men.

To Be or Not to Be Gay

Danielle Ariano | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Danielle Ariano

About a year and a half after I came out as a lesbian, I moved to Miami, where I fell in love for the first time, which would have been wonderful if not for the fact that the person I fell in love with was a man. How does a gay woman fall in love with a man?

Label Mayhem: The Problem With a Binary System of Sexuality in a Society That's Changing Its Views on Love

Bekki Charbonneau | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Bekki Charbonneau

I am a queer woman. I flip-flop between identities. I have been "straight," then "bisexual," then "pansexual," then a weeping puddle in the middle of the floor (which has occurred frequently enough to be considered an identity, in my opinion). But I have figured out a few things (probably).

WATCH: It's Okay To Be Asexual

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 10.21.2013 | Gay Voices

Asexual Awareness Week, a week to recognize and celebrate individuals who identify as asexual, began yesterday and will run through Oct. 26. Occur...

We Need a New Orientation to Sex

Cory Silverberg | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Cory Silverberg

In practice, sexual orientation poses only one question, and it is both dull and blunt: What is the gender of the people whom you are sexually attracted to and with whom you want to have intimate relationships? This is my problem.

Who Can Own 'Queer'?

Eden Walker | Posted 09.22.2013 | Gay Voices
Eden Walker

A friend of mine said that you don't have to be gay to be "queer," and I have to agree, but you can't be straight either. Our educated, empathic straight allies claiming "queer" is as deluded as me claiming to be black because I know when the Windrush landed.

Sex, Gender and the Greater Truth Forgotten in the Marriage Equality Debate

Larry Womack | Posted 08.25.2013 | Gay Voices
Larry Womack

We're born with biological sexes that may or may not be male or female, gender identities that may or may not align with them and sexual orientations that are all over the place. How have we come this far in the marriage debate without asking how such suspect delineations could matter?

Born Which Way?

Laura Krughoff | Posted 08.24.2013 | Gay Voices
Laura Krughoff

I believe people should be free to marry whomever they choose. Basing that claim on who was born which way, however, demonstrates either ignorance or foolishness. An open discussion of gender identity might help all of us, LGB or straight, transgender or not, recognize this.

'Did You Ever Think You Might Be A Lesbian?'

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 06.01.2013 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

Now that I'm blogging about growing up with two mommies, a friend of mine recently asked me, "Did you ever think you might be a lesbian, since that's the lifestyle you knew from home?" Obviously I have to answer this one with a story.