Shame. It governs our lives in more ways than we'd want it to. Any cringe, embarrassment, infraction of social norms; It is a learnt mechanism to pull us back into a narrative that we have been told our whole lives.
Jacintha was the 46-year-old, mother-of-two who worked at King Edward VII's Hospital Sister Agnes in London, England; a hardworking, devoted nurse; the particular nurse that just happened to answer the telephone on December 4, 2012.
As a first-time mom, I've come to this simple realization: If you are worried that you're not a good parent, trust me, that makes you an amazing parent. It's the parents who don't worry that we should be worried about.
This breed of finger-pointing feminism is what alienates people. It's the kind that gets trivialized. Blaming and shaming is not feminism; it's about understanding that you may not agree with decisions of other women, but you respect their ability to make their own choices.
Pleasure begets pleasure. The unfettered enjoyment of YA fiction now experienced by both adults and teenagers -- age groups that used to be at odds -- has led to increased exchanges of ideas and recommendations, the revitalization of the Internet reading community.
Withholding food is something we don't do to even the worst of criminals locked up in prison, even though they're mature enough to be held responsible for their own actions. Why would anyone think it's OK to do this to kids?
So far so good. He makes you smile. He turns you on. The banter is flirty, playful and just enough to make you bite your lip in anticipation. Then he probes: "What do you like?" or "How do you like it?"
Shame survives in the darkest recesses of one's insecure, self-loathing and self-doubting mind. Shame needs fear and negativity to survive. These "dark" forces are no match for the "light" of love, acceptance, self-respect and, most of all, courage.
If the goal of opposing workplace bullying is indeed to promote more humane workplace environments, decrease workplace aggression, and reduce the potential for workplace violence, shaming targets or shaming bullies is counterproductive.