I can't sing enough praises for what Black Girls Rock! has given all of us in their work to empower and mentor Black girls. I am particularly excited about their growing influence on the portrayal of women and girls of African descent in media.
People just assumed that my husband must've been the writer who'd come up with the script. Because how could a woman come up with such words? How could a woman create such badass art? How could a young actress who looks the way I look create such sharp, dark, rude fits of expression?
This last week opened up the wounds I have been holding to for years. I must have kept most of it deep down! I just spent a week on a retreat with a group of warmhearted women all looking to excel in their business and personal life.
Like biological sisters, spiritual sisters disagree. We argue, we vent and sometimes we hurt each other deeply. We can still choose to build a diverse tribe of like-minded women, fiercely committed to radical, empathetic sisterhood.
Theories and data sets attempting to explain why I'm in this situation, who's to blame and which folks are faring better may ultimately help by shaping public policy, but in the short-term, that doesn't pay the rent or feed my children.
Oh, what a surprise, the Oscar nominees are White men! As they try to use awesome talent like Lupita Nyong'o as a poster child for their agenda, we should remember that the Academy Awards have never been kind to Black women.
Young women need to be shown how to love themselves for who they are, in each and every moment. Each one of us was put on this earth for a reason. Simply by being here we are enough. Each one of us represents a drop of the divine and infinite potential.
I've never been a sister or had a sister. I've just gone along assuming sister experts were right; that our two little girls would walk hand in had across clouds, their pet unicorns nibbling at magic dust they held in cupped hands.
The next time your ambition is in overdrive and you just want to work-work-work, try one of these practices to feel productive, playful and free. You'll be amazed at how much you can accomplish when you do better, not more.