Saying "Yes" Begins by Saying "No" -- How to Conduct an Inventory
Each of us has to be clear about where our life is centered. Without this sense of center, we will say "yes" just to please others or be to be "nice."
Each of us has to be clear about where our life is centered. Without this sense of center, we will say "yes" just to please others or be to be "nice."
The lure of "inclusion" and "access to the powerful" and "being part of the consensus" seemed attractive, while there seemed to be little to be gained by simply not being on the list.
Some friends and I started a dream group on a lark one summer. 16 years later, we are still meeting every week to discuss our dreams.
Facing one's fear and moving past the resistance is integral in the act of creating something from nothing. But what are we afraid of? Why do we resist?
How can you love another if you do not love yourself? The answer is, you can't, at least not completely. You cannot love someone unconditionally until you love yourself unconditionally,
The gut fear in my body as I entered the prison behind heavy locking doors gave way to wonder. In this small chapel with this group of fifteen to twenty men, at least most of them with horrific backgrounds and guilty of crimes against society, I discovered the passion for truth. I discovered that people in all circumstances, when they are willing to face both the failures and successes of their lives fully and ruthlessly, find peace and redemption in their hearts.
I place as much value in communication, dialogue and evolving worldviews as I do in certainty or blind faith.
The reason we have such difficulty being with ourselves is that we have lost sight of our true essence; what I call love-consciousness.
Creativity is by definition an act of faith. I frankly don't know where I get the balls to sit down at this computer and attempt to write.
The Internet is an unprecedented, unmediated extension of the human experience...and we are just beginning to comprehend the power and skills of being a full-on participant.
The internet is spinning us to a degree that a dervish could love.
Vision quests are seen as both personal and collective events that are guided and witnessed within the community, and often involve the "quester" spending time alone in nature in search of a personal vision that becomes a vision to support the entire community.
When we become aware of the impossibility of external permanence, we can begin to cultivate the only thing that can give true security: inner peace.
Even if we rebel against them, our names can seem like a kind of map of our persona, a map that defines how we are separate from others.
Last weeks post honoring the memory of the amazing Jamie Dyer Dordek had many unexpected consequences. On the vibrant bright side, it was a comfort t...
The following incident, which took place when I first established a retreat center in Colombia, shows that an inherent desire for peace permeates humanity across the globe.
The secret to spiritual practice is doing it precisely when you don't feel like doing it. When such thoughts matter most is when they are the hardest to summon up.
Most people who consider themselves at least somewhat spiritual, regardless of their religion or set of beliefs, have realized that caring for the earth is imperative to their spirituality.
The real challenge is to stay with mediation long enough to start noticing how incredibly engaging the process can be as whole new worlds of awareness and sensation open to us. It's anything but boring.
My mind raced darkly as I approached the car. I thought to myself, 'Dear God, if I just got a $40 parking ticket in order to get free samples of Fiber One cereal, shoot me now. I'm going to be so poor, I'll have to eat the Fiber One. Why me? Life is so freaking unfair I don't think I can bear another minute. I hate Fiber One.'
My life has been one sacrifice after another. It would have been simpler to lower my ideals, to set my sights on something easier, more mainstream. I couldn't do that.
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Thank you so much for this article. Michael was such a large part of our lives. I am 8 yrs older than he was and I remember how proud I was, to see him on the Ed Sullivan show He entertained my children, and then my grandchildren. His words and music just made you feel good about the world and its people. All of these people who can only make negative comments about him, I feel sorry for them, how unhappy your life must be to find time to tear another person down.
I think we put celebrities on such a high pedestal and don't expect them to be human. When they do show evidence of being human, it makes us uncomfortable so we bash them for it. After they die, we can go back to feeling like they are more than human and put them back on the pedestal, which makes us feel comfortable again because we can reconcile our image of them with what we feel they are now. One would hope that after what happened to Princess Di this practice would have ended, but it didn't. We justify doing this by telling ourselves that its OK to treat people with money and fame this way.
that's a huge reason that I was so affected by his death, because of what should have been and how it could have been (his life). He was so confident and charismatic onstage that people couldn't believe that he could be so shy and socially awkward off stage, so they ridiculed him and treated him like he had no feelings when he was indeed more sensitive than most. And everything seemed to conspire against the guys self esteem, with bad acne during life on the stage as a teen, his father calling him "big nose", getting vitiligo which is devasting anyway, but then ON stage in front of everyone? I honestly feel so sad because it makes me wish that someone could have been a perfect friend and lover through it all to help him love himself and shield him from the cruel bullies of the world who must kick everyone down to their miserable levels.
watching his home videos and stuff, it's apparent that he just wanted to have fun and be appreciated. seemed like a nice guy to know
Yeah, this is a lovely post -and spoke well for how I felt about it. More than that, not matter who or what he was - he found those people in his life that loved him for being just himself - his children.
Out of respect for the most innocent amongst the populace, regardless of anything their father did or didn't do right in life or for the 'what if''s - these kids deserve to have their dignity respected, they've suffered enough.
RIP
Sandy
Beautiful article and so well said! Bill O Reilly needs to read your words. Then maybe he will shut up. Thank you.
I like your attitude of taking responsibility for the harm done to people in our culture. Instead of seeing Michael Jackson as too sensitive for our world, I'd rather see our world as too brutal for many sensitive people. I love to imagine a world in which sensitivity and it's partners creativity and love are the norm and people who are too brutal are seen as outsiders needing extra care.
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