I'm the person who uses Facebook as a world-wide picture sharing site, a 21st century baby brag book. It's me; I've "ruined" Facebook for the cool kids.
Life affords few do overs, but were I to be granted one, here is how I would have nurtured my dormant career. Here is what any parent who wants/needs to stay home with their kids can do to keep a toe in the water, without drowning.
Having three children swallows me whole. I love them fiercely, but I'm not always paying attention to them.
A powerful, experienced group of stay-at-home dads, organizing and training the next generation of fathers, gives us hope for the future. We will continue to support them every way we can, and we look forward to seeing them in Denver in 2014.
We can point fingers and argue over the biological realities and psychological influences, but that is missing the point. Moms and dads feel inadequate, as it were only their fault that they can't be two in places at one time, when in reality, they are dealing with a systemic problem.
After investing as much as $250,000 in tuition, why would fathers watch proudly as their daughters graduate from college, and then expect them only to work for a year or two before exiting the workforce to raise a family?
While there are a growing number of full-time opportunities listed on job posting boards, relatively few organization are willing to hire people into part-time or flex-time options. Employers of America are missing out on perhaps our greatest resource.
Are these the men that will be thoughtful and balanced leaders, nurturing fathers and caring husbands? Are these the men that will act as stewards for their organizations, be true partners in raising their children and enable their wives to pursue her ambitions?
It's as if the number of people who agree with you, or the number of "likes" you receive on a post, will guarantee that your child will become a responsible, productive and overall good human being.
When you elevate women to a pedestal, you put them in a place where they can't fall. Because this elevated position means that with all the glory comes all the blame. Because this sets up the dichotomy where mothers are highly valued until they make a mistake. Then, they are the problem with everything.
I'm fortunate that my husband makes a good living right now. So much so that, baring any unforeseen circumstances, I won't have to work again. (And maybe I won't.) To many, that's a dream. To me, it's a death.
I've lost a bit of who I was... that drive, that energy, that pace. But I've gained a bit of who I am.... this cheerfulness, this softness, this pace. I think that perhaps I'm a bit more lover and a bit less fighter, which is both good and bad. I miss the working me, but I am proud of this me.
With the kids back in school, your home is probably becoming an unfamiliar place of solitude. What are you going to do with the extra seven hours per day? Perhaps you can experiment with some of these ideas for generating extra income.
Are you a recent grad having trouble finding a job in your area of study? Or perhaps you're mid-career and feeling trapped, unable to move up the ladder.
When women leave the workforce, one of three things happens: They get divorced and often plummet into relative poverty; they find it nigh-impossible to get back in; or they find new jobs post-haste and everything is peachy.
If women are looking to achieve anything close to the myth known as "having it all," the more children they have, the harder it will be. That's not judgment. That's simple math.