I am 100 percent a feminist. Feminism is the advocacy of women's rights on the grounds of political, social and economic equality to men. Can I be a feminist and still stay home with my children at this point in our lives? Well, yes, actually I can.
Why is it that the world expects mothers to sit home and raise the future of our nations without any type of financial compensation?
There's something so beautiful, fragile and crucial about being a mother. All mothers share the same love, joy, guilt, heartache, stress, lack of time, gratitude -- even if our days aren't structured identically.
Stay-at-home mom is not a real job. At most places of employment, when you take lunch, you're actually allowed to feed yourself, not spend lunchtime preparing a meal for your boss, cutting it into painstakingly small pieces, while he screams at you for not moving faster.
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Their persistence is impressive. Their energy is 10 times what mine was at their age. Their ability to laugh, despite how serious I try to be is annoying, yet something I am thankful for.
Motherhood is hard and rewarding. That is the truth. Enjoying the journey has everything to do with how you manage the obstacles that are in front of you and the systems that you put in place to support your life.
Many couples who see me for counseling are struggling with the demands of parenting small children. Frequently, the husband works outside the home, in a classic financial provider role, and the wife stays at home with kids under 5.
Whoever coined the phrase, "glass ceiling" isn't a mom to five, a host, chef, food blogger and columnist. Another life ago, I inhabited Corporate America.
We share the same fears and hopes. We love with the same fierceness. Our mothering is deeply personal, but motherhood is reassuringly and earnestly universal.
I thought my degrees and past work experience would speak for themselves. I thought I'd seamlessly transition back into the workforce. But, I am highly educated in looking at perspectives, analyzing situations and problem-solving. I guess I'll do just that.
You are not a bad person for lamenting the loss of you, for yearning for the person you were before you were a parent -- before you were "so-and-so's Mom."
With time, I've learned that real love is made of the everyday stuff that cements a relationship over the years, the experiences that build a family, and the security and stability that make a home.
Staying home with kids can feel like you have a boss following you around all day, even to the restroom. Kids are always watching. "Mommy, are you eating candy? Can I have some candy?" Kids love to critique. "Mommy, the oven is dirty!"
Over the years, I've come to learn a very important truth. No matter what label I'm wearing at any given moment, if you ask me what kind of mom I am, there's only one answer that matters.
Caring for us came at a cost to mom's career. Workplace attitudes and practices continue to penalize mothers and keep the gender pay gap wide, even as it is narrowing for young women pre-motherhood.