It's all different now and in some ways it's better because, man, have I missed showering. But as I assemble my day of exercising, working and generally keeping busy, I realize it will probably never be quite as full as it was before. For better and for worse.
Just like a SAHM who is a trained nurse should take continuing education courses to keep her nursing license valid, all SAHM's should approach planning for future career reentry in the same way -- deliberately and continuously.
My mom was a stay-at-home mom, and her mom was a stay-at-home mom. This is one legacy I don't want my daughter to carry on -- I want more for her than that. At 10, I remember thinking, I want to be just like my mom, except I want to have a life. Yet here I am.
I'm not suggesting that we all helicopter around our blossoming children, but availability should absolutely remain a constant.
Anne Marie Slaughter's article in yesterday's New York Times lays bare how women caregivers are shut out of careers because America's workplaces have been built around an ideal worker norm that assumed that any deviance from complete availability signaled a lack of commitment to the company.
Many people, no matter how hard they work, do not get the same opportunities as others. They don't get the best of choices. Others get no choice at all. Despite what many of us think or believe, having a choice is a great luxury.
I am 100 percent a feminist. Feminism is the advocacy of women's rights on the grounds of political, social and economic equality to men. Can I be a feminist and still stay home with my children at this point in our lives? Well, yes, actually I can.
Why is it that the world expects mothers to sit home and raise the future of our nations without any type of financial compensation?
There's something so beautiful, fragile and crucial about being a mother. All mothers share the same love, joy, guilt, heartache, stress, lack of time, gratitude -- even if our days aren't structured identically.
Stay-at-home mom is not a real job. At most places of employment, when you take lunch, you're actually allowed to feed yourself, not spend lunchtime preparing a meal for your boss, cutting it into painstakingly small pieces, while he screams at you for not moving faster.
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Their persistence is impressive. Their energy is 10 times what mine was at their age. Their ability to laugh, despite how serious I try to be is annoying, yet something I am thankful for.
Motherhood is hard and rewarding. That is the truth. Enjoying the journey has everything to do with how you manage the obstacles that are in front of you and the systems that you put in place to support your life.
Many couples who see me for counseling are struggling with the demands of parenting small children. Frequently, the husband works outside the home, in a classic financial provider role, and the wife stays at home with kids under 5.
Whoever coined the phrase, "glass ceiling" isn't a mom to five, a host, chef, food blogger and columnist. Another life ago, I inhabited Corporate America.
We share the same fears and hopes. We love with the same fierceness. Our mothering is deeply personal, but motherhood is reassuringly and earnestly universal.