It was shortly before I met my husband and knew with certainty that I would have children someday that Felicity Huffman told 60 Minutes and Leslie Stahl "no" when asked if motherhood was her greatest accomplishment.
I want to start off by saying I'm sorry -- sorry if I have ever judged you, if I have ever talked negatively about you.
Somewhere along the line, my babies who needed me for everything, from sleeping to eating to diaper changes to constant cuddles, they grew into these little people who talk to me and each other and friends and strangers, who ask for things and love school and play make-believe and try to be independent.
So, how do you land a job you love that also fits your single mom lifestyle? It's not easy, but it is certainly doable! Here are eight job searching tips I wish I could have told myself as a mom going back to work after divorce.
I am one of roughly ten million American moms who've left the workforce to raise young kids, a percentage of the population that is steadily rising, not falling.
I won't miss feeling so frustrated that I snap at a 5-year-old who cannot -- and should not -- help her curiosity about this fascinating world around her.
Before you come after me with pitchforks, let me explain myself.
It's all different now and in some ways it's better because, man, have I missed showering. But as I assemble my day of exercising, working and generally keeping busy, I realize it will probably never be quite as full as it was before. For better and for worse.
Just like a SAHM who is a trained nurse should take continuing education courses to keep her nursing license valid, all SAHM's should approach planning for future career reentry in the same way -- deliberately and continuously.
My mom was a stay-at-home mom, and her mom was a stay-at-home mom. This is one legacy I don't want my daughter to carry on -- I want more for her than that. At 10, I remember thinking, I want to be just like my mom, except I want to have a life. Yet here I am.
I'm not suggesting that we all helicopter around our blossoming children, but availability should absolutely remain a constant.
Anne Marie Slaughter's article in yesterday's New York Times lays bare how women caregivers are shut out of careers because America's workplaces have been built around an ideal worker norm that assumed that any deviance from complete availability signaled a lack of commitment to the company.
Many people, no matter how hard they work, do not get the same opportunities as others. They don't get the best of choices. Others get no choice at all. Despite what many of us think or believe, having a choice is a great luxury.
I am 100 percent a feminist. Feminism is the advocacy of women's rights on the grounds of political, social and economic equality to men. Can I be a feminist and still stay home with my children at this point in our lives? Well, yes, actually I can.
Why is it that the world expects mothers to sit home and raise the future of our nations without any type of financial compensation?
There's something so beautiful, fragile and crucial about being a mother. All mothers share the same love, joy, guilt, heartache, stress, lack of time, gratitude -- even if our days aren't structured identically.