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Stepmother

Hey, Who's In My House -- Step Kids Struggle, Too

Erin Mantz | Posted 05.11.2015 | Divorce
Erin Mantz

I read a lot about stepmother struggles -- about how they wish they were treated, want to be treated, think they should be treated -- by their stepkids. And I get it. I've had one, practically am one and know a lot. Most stepmothers deserve respect, kindness, acknowledgement and even some appreciation. It's not easy being a stepmom. But, it's not easy being a step kid, either.

Happy Stepmother's Day!

Meia Chita-Tegmark | Posted 05.10.2015 | Divorce
Meia Chita-Tegmark

I feel that the celebration of stepmotherhood in our cultures should start with us the stepmoms. I also think that it is great to celebrate on Mother's Day -- not because we are trying to steal the day away from the biological mothers, but because of the connection we have to those that share their children with us.

The Greatest Mother's Day Card Ever Written

Barbara Goldberg | Posted 05.07.2015 | Divorce
Barbara Goldberg

Dear Me, Happy Mother's Day! I am so proud of you. Another year has gone by and you have done your best. You have passionately loved your family and worked hard to give them what they need and want. You have tried. I love that about you.

5 Boldfaced Lies About Being A Stepmom

Brenda Ockun | Posted 03.26.2015 | Divorce
Brenda Ockun

Relationships take time, so don't let anyone define your family's natural progression. Practice kindness and mutual respect. If love develops? Great! Consider it a bonus.

My Stepmother Plan Was harder to Write Than my Business Plan

Kathryn Minchew | Posted 05.13.2015 | Divorce
Kathryn Minchew

It was clear to me I needed some kind of plan but here was a situation where one of the largest stakeholders in my business (aka my new family) was someone I had never interviewed, let alone approved.

Check Your Ego at the Door (Beyond Mom and Stepmom Hate)

Shelley Wetton | Posted 04.26.2015 | Divorce
Shelley Wetton

My little boy's well being stopped my insecurity in its tracks. I didn't want Connor to suffer and refused to confuse him by encouraging hatred for a woman who loved him. I refused to be selfish, cruel and bitter because it's just not how I'm wired.

The Moment I Bonded With My Stepdaughter For Good

Heather Leiva | Posted 04.07.2015 | Divorce
Heather Leiva

A biological parent can suggest it's dangerous to walk on those rocks, and be met with momentary disdain followed by snuggles five minutes later.

All I Can Ever Promise To Be As A Mother And Stepmother

Nicole Jankowski | Posted 03.24.2015 | Divorce
Nicole Jankowski

While I would never claim to be GOOD at the job of being a mother, I can claim, with assuredness, that I am, at least, experienced.

An Open Letter To My Daughter's Stepmom

Candice Curry | Posted 02.08.2015 | Divorce
Candice Curry

I never wanted you here. You simply were never part of the plan. Growing up and dreaming of my family I never included you. I didn't want help from another woman to raise my child. But then you arrived. Dang your kind smile! I was planing on really hating you. I wanted to resent you but you made it impossible.

How to Have the Perfect Stepfamily Holiday

Barbara Goldberg | Posted 01.20.2015 | Divorce
Barbara Goldberg

So, you want to have a perfect holiday. The tree is decorated beautifully. The weather is cold and crispy. The food is cooked to perfection. The only thing missing is...a family that has not experienced divorce.

How You Can Fall in Love With Your Stepmother

Shannon Bradley-Colleary | Posted 01.10.2015 | Women
Shannon Bradley-Colleary

She had platinum blonde hair worn in an Aqua-Net bouffant, thick black eyeliner and a figure Jayne Mansfield would've killed for. At night, she peeled her false eyelashes off like she was undressing her face.

This Personal Account Of Loving A Man With Kids Is Beautifully Relatable

Sarah Humphreys | Posted 12.17.2014 | Divorce
Sarah Humphreys

It is quite a unique thing to open the hatchback of a car to load in your skis and see your future step-children in their car seats, shiny-haired heads turned to check you out, a random woman along for the ride. You try to act casual and cheery, but your voice is shaky and your eyes are wet.

10 Brutal Truths About Being A Stepmom

Lindsay Ferrier | Posted 11.22.2014 | Divorce
Lindsay Ferrier

I would change a lot of things I did as a stepmother if I could go back in time, but I wouldn't give up my blended family.

Move Over, First Families: 'Blended' Families Are the New Game in Town

Beverly Willett | Posted 11.17.2014 | Divorce
Beverly Willett

Ads like Honey Maid's, however, place moms like me and dads like my ex potentially on the defensive, maybe even to be labeled bigots. But why should I ever need to defend myself for wanting to make sure that my children know that their dad is 'Dad' and their mom is 'Mom.'

What if We Could All be Like Brangelina?

Barbara Goldberg | Posted 11.02.2014 | Entertainment
Barbara Goldberg

What if Brad had been a woman who had taken on the responsibility of her man's children? Uh oh! Now, that woman would be labeled a stepmother, and we all know what that means. She would be looked upon as a mistress for the rest of her life.

When a Stepmother Has Her Period

Barbara Goldberg | Posted 10.05.2014 | Divorce
Barbara Goldberg

I see all the stepmothers running to spas and hotels for seven days a month. Then, over time, all of the stepmothers' periods would start to coordinate to the same week each month (The McClintock Effect). Now, the world would be without any stepmothers for one week every month.

Dear Family Whisperer: You Can't Go Home but You Can Grow Up -- Here's How

Melinda Blau | Posted 09.30.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

With grandparents staying active and healthy longer, many families are trying to figure out how to have stress-free three-generation gatherings.

It Takes Over a Village: Calling Out American 'Mommyism'

Joel Schwartzberg | Posted 09.15.2014 | Parents
Joel Schwartzberg

I want my daughters to grow up feeling vital and empowered based on what's inside them, not on what comes out. I want my son to recognize women as inherently whole and complete, without regard to their present or potential offspring.

When the Wicked Stepmother Fran Drescher Tells You to Get to Work, Better Listen

Cary A. Presant, M.D. | Posted 06.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Cary A. Presant, M.D.

We all know about the wicked stepmother in the story of Cinderella, and how she orders poor Cinderella to do the cleaning and household chores. The ro...

Forming a Family, Step by Step

Jennifer Glass | Posted 04.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Glass

Throughout my life, having a solid stepladder has steadied me and helped me to reach higher. At first I might have tread lightly, but now my footing is firm. I just take it one step at a time.

3 Days in the Life of a Blended Family of Seven

Elizabeth Denham | Posted 03.15.2014 | Divorce
Elizabeth Denham

I am a planner. Google calendar is my friend. I have five kids' and two adults' calendars on my phone, with alerts programmed to mine and theirs (thou...

A Stepmom Learns From Nelson Mandela

Barbara Goldberg | Posted 02.12.2014 | Divorce
Barbara Goldberg

I am not a historian or politician. From a distant view, there appears to be a few lessons that we may be able to apply to our own lives. Here are a few lessons about leadership that may give us cause to consider.

An Open Letter to My Step Kids for Thanksgiving

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 01.26.2014 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

I am so very thankful for this weird, dysfunctionally functional, blended family of ours. Because for the last six years, whether you've hated me or loved me, you've always made me feel like a real mom. And for that alone, I am eternally grateful. I love you with all my heart.

3 Good Reasons the Ex-Wife Hates the Stepmother

Barbara Goldberg | Posted 11.23.2013 | Divorce
Barbara Goldberg

If you talk to a divorced, remarried woman long enough, guaranteed you will hear about the new stepmother or the old wife. It seems to come with the territory. Tell someone who you are a stepmother and you will be asked how you get along with the ex within the first hour.

Where Do Grandmom and Grandpop Fit Into the Stepfamily Picture?

Barbara Goldberg | Posted 09.22.2013 | Divorce
Barbara Goldberg

As your spouse was living as a single parent, his/her parents may have been helping with the children. When stepparents come into the picture, we disrupt the equilibrium between the grandparents and their child, as well as the grandparents and their grandchildren