Sometimes the best thing to do when those around you are displaying frantic or negative energy is to get razor focused on something else. Anything else.
Cats need their daily routine to be very predictable and consistent. Some kitties, when they feel stressed by a change in their environment, will start performing a behavior like grooming themselves. This is an example of a displacement behavior.
Here are a few quick things you can be doing to effectively reduce your negative stress response -- now, as reindeer hooves fast approach.
When you make gratitude a practice and express it to others, you shore up your own sense emotional well-being. Gift-giving can then be what it really is: a small sweet moment in a long rich life.
Although December is a joyous time of the year filled with holiday celebrations and good tidings to all, for many women it adds more stress into a cup that already runneth over.
The results may be subtle at first. You might find, for instance, you're no longer waking up at 3 a.m. obsessing about that obnoxious person, or that you aren't yelling at the kids when they dawdle getting ready in the morning.
"Does anybody want to pet the turkey?" Only the fierce, southern woman that is my mother can look at an unpardoned, skinned bird, and turn him into a cartoon. "Catherine?" she says, "you want to name him?" Along with turkey and casseroles, vegetarian jokes are a Castellanos family tradition.
Let's face it, daily life can be beyond stressful. And between a demanding job and even more demanding home life, it becomes next to impossible to squeeze a bit of serenity into our everyday rounds. But what if being idle were just as productive -- and necessary -- as being super busy?
Working too much makes us stupider, unhappier, unhealthier and less successful. Let's break this down, shall we?
Stress isn't out there -- it's how you respond to stress that determines your experience. Thoughts and words are a critical part of that because they mirror how you interpret what's going on around you.
You guys! Great news: Researchers have identified a new, fifth kind of boredom. It's true! Apparently the first four were getting a little musty, a little inadequate to describe what researchers say is a new, ultramodern kind of disinterested numbness.
As he told me the story, he kept emphasizing how the phrase "Some problems need to ripen" had changed the way he thought about work and, in fact, how he interacted with people.
Why not resist the urge to channel your inner Martha Stewart and aim for a good enough holiday instead? Good enough holidays can actually be better than picture perfect when you focus on what truly matters and let yourself relax and enjoy.
There are many kinds of well-being; to be full, you need to look at everything, including overall happiness, relationships and community, self confidence, career, spiritual health and finances.
If we are mindful of our mindsets about stress -- and of the potential power of such mindsets -- it may be possible to learn how to stress better.
You know what's going to bother you this year, because it's likely the same thing that bothered you last year, and the year before that. You can't stop your sister in law from making a comment about your single status, but you can say that you're enjoying being on your own and haven't had this much fun in years.