Over the years I've gotten pretty good at being pretty crappy at some things. To be clear, I hate being crappy at things. It's not my intention, it's frustrating. But I also know that sometimes it's just necessary.
There is something special about being in a train -- the underground lights rapidly moving through darkness, the coffee smell, the moving flow of the wagons that brings you back to your grandmother's backyard rocking chair -- that makes me more meditative.
It is worth taking a moment to consider what impact the content and format of reporting has on our emotional lives and mental health and maybe even safety.
Wouldn't it be lovely if others always saw things our way...? Nah... probably be pretty boring, actually. But even though it would be dull and stifl...
have been talking to your teens for over two decades. Even though trends and styles may change, teens still have the same concerns and the same secrets that they would like you to know, but just don't feel comfortable telling you.
Eventually, a shame-based mind represses its mistakes to avoid feeling bad, preventing the possibility of learning from a mistake, which only increases the likelihood of repeating the blunder. Thus, mistakes can't teach us anything. We become afraid to take risks, which limits our growth.
Our children will not always remember their standardized test scores -- but they will remember those moments when they were challenged, and struggled, and learned, and grew. Success can be defined not by the grade given but by the lessons learned. We must create a system that values those achievements.
I don't want to start a debate on success or happiness. Instead, I want to highlight an opportunity we have as parents: Let's help children everywhere in this world to experience less pain, misery and agony in life.
What makes watching things stressful -- like taking in a performance, rooting for a friend, or even seeing a scary movie -- is also what makes them. It's all in how it's framed.
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Regardless of your situation, things do not stay the same. You may feel very bad today, but it won't last forever. Remember this fact: Regardless of your current situation, everything changes over time. This includes your current situation. Nothing remains the same forever.
If we can acknowledge that the anti-habitual effects and effort of consciousness are partly what make meditation hard, we can begin to truly just be where we are.