Somewhat recently a cardiac arrest survivor I helped to resuscitate was diagnosed with a terminal disease. This brought about the question, is it better to go quickly, not knowing the end is near, or is it better to have extra time on this earth, but know that you and your family may have to endure an end full of potential suffering?
By relying solely on non-experts as sources of information, the media wittingly or unwittingly reinforces misconceptions about domestic homicides. Domestic homicides sometimes provide experts with the opportunity to call attention to the underlying realities -- but only when the media thinks to call us.
With reservations, you'll listen to your brother's messages before you reluctantly decide to return his calls. In the next few minutes, your brother will remind you that your current state is just a moment, which you need to get through to have a chance to survive. Minute by minute and hour by hour, you'll get stronger. You still aren't sure if you want to live, but you'll begin to consider things beyond this moment.
Shortly after the latest school shooting, a murder-suicide, the University of South Carolina announced "the threat has passed." But has it? A rash of potential suicidal gun wielders may make us rethink our safety. And it's been on my mind since we've had two murder-suicides within four miles of my house.