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The Good Men Project

What The Heck Is A "Good" Man Anyhow?

Tom Matlack | Posted 08.29.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

Talking about "goodness" is nearly impossible to pin down. With so many men in the public eye called out for bad behavior, from the very start "good" has been our company's cross to bear.

How Reconciling Fathering With Feminism Just Got More Complicated

Andrea Doucet, Ph.D. | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Andrea Doucet, Ph.D.

The fit between feminism and fathering has become a taken-for-granted part of my work and my life. But I was recently forced to rethink this combination as I followed a debate between men's rights activists (MRAs) and their critics.

Questioning My Faith

Tom Matlack | Posted 05.25.2011 | Religion
Tom Matlack

Even in my most desperate moments, when I was ready to embrace religion, I still couldn't figure out which one I belonged to.

Goodness Isn't A Policy

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

We polled political observers across the country, scouring our nation for that one thing that public opinion seems to be sure was lost: a good man politician.

Thank Goodness for the Good Men

Randy Susan Meyers | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Randy Susan Meyers

Good men know that women writing about women getting hurt is not a statement that men are never hurt. It's not a statement that women are all perfect. It's simply a statement about stopping violence against women.

The Good Men at Penthouse

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

I firmly believe that "goodness" is like faith--I shouldn't tell you what yours should look like, and you shouldn't tell me what mine should look like.

Why Do These Wimps Need a Magazine?

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

From the very beginning, I said that ten percent of men will "get" the Good Men Project right away, ten percent will never get it, and eighty percent will need convincing.

Manhood by Cuddle

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

I've tried yoga and therapy, but when it comes to getting centered, nothing compares to cuddling with my kids.

Okay, We Admit It: Guys Screw Up

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

We asked famous men (and average Joes) to answer the question, "From which of your mistakes did you learn the most?" Here's what they said.

Cement for Mother's Day

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

No the only reason I know any of my adolescent children's sexual explorations is because they choose Elena as the one adult in the world they could trust to give them each advice.

Good Men & Teen Prostitution

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

The more I try to look closely at what it means to be a good man in America the more I come back to role of sex in our culture.

War Games: Video at the Heart of Modern Warfare and the Attempt to Heal Our Modern Soldiers

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

Gamer skills, it turns out, have a key role to play not only in fighting the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan but also in healing the wounded.

The Los Angeles Book Festival: A Good Discussion

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

Honestly I didn't want to go. Panel discussions are not my bag. I had to fly all the way across the country from Boston to LA. And it so happened that I would miss my daughter's first prom.

My Manly Chat With Wall Street Journal Columnist Jeffrey Zaslow

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

I'm not afraid to say, "I love you." I live in a home with four women--my wife and three daughters --and they've taught me about romance, affection, etc.

Fatherless Day: On Boys Without Dads Becoming Dads

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

As a man, I was saved by the realization, 14 years ago now, that despite a painful divorce, I wanted to be a father to my two baby children.

How To Succeed as a Man: Read Dr. Seuss Aloud

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

I felt the air travel in and out of my lungs. I was no longer holding my breath. I imagined myself reading Go, Dog, Go! to my children.

Big Island: On Why Opposites Attract

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

Dad is perhaps the smartest man I have ever known, having graduated from Princeton, Oxford, and Yale. But he has to arrange the chairs in a certain way at family gatherings.

Good Is Good #2: A Sitdown With Tim Donaghy

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

To me, manhood and goodness are not about getting it right from the get-go. They are about making mistakes -- big mistakes -- and then figuring out what the hell you're going to do about it.

Divorce, Parenthood and Being a Man

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

That's what I was thinking about as I drove Seamus up the hill. I tried to remember the last time I had talked to my dad about anything of real importance. And I couldn't remember.

Porn Addiction, the Media and Modern Manhood

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

Aren't we sick of these stories? Do I really care about the status of Charlie Sheen's recovery? What I do care a lot about is the state of the average American guy. And for him, I am pretty darned concerned.

Reaching for the Stars

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

In moments of self-imposed hatred, I see my son's baby blues. Nothing else matters. All concern drops. Where does that light come from?

It's Not Tiger or Jesse, It's You

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

John Edwards, Tiger Woods, Jesse James, and our obsession with their bad behavior, are a symptom of a much deeper problem that the Groundhog Day feel of the news should shake us all to consider.

Lolita All Grown Up: Lisbeth Salander

Tom Matlack | Posted 05.25.2011 | Books
Tom Matlack

It's no accident that Larsson's original title for The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo, now bastardized by the American publishers, was Men Who Hate Women.

Baptism

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

My grandfather first came to Lake Megunticook, just outside the picturesque sailing village of Camden, with my great-grandparents in the mid-1910s, when the local salesmen in the family paint business recommended "A place on the pond."

Friendship, Fatherhood and Male Bonding

Tom Matlack | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tom Matlack

We worked hard, not so much to condition our bodies but to condition our minds. The payoff was that this development of the mind could be applied to any situation in life later on, whether on or off the water.