Mental health professionals are like any other kind of professionals. Some are excellent; some are poor. Most are somewhere in between. You start with a leg up if you find someone who is well-trained in a kind of psychotherapy that has a very strong evidence base. Don't get discouraged if the therapist you're seeing isn't helpful enough. It just means you haven't yet found the right person.
Up the winding steps of an old warehouse in Brooklyn is Standard Toykraft, a small venue with a stage and six short pews. Couples squeeze into them as the lights dim for the one-year anniversary of the Relationshit show, a live storytelling event where comedians and performers tell stories, and one of them is then analyzed by an actual psychologist on stage.
I am a work in progress. I have the tools I need to keep depression at bay and to be my best self. I know I will have setbacks and that is OK. I encourage everyone to try some of these tools. I find them very helpful. If you think you need a therapist, look for one. Most of all, put your oxygen mask on first. I promise you are worth it.
It may seem strange that writing about playing like a kid is part of a series of blogs about sex, but let's face it, sex is just another form of play. Sure, it's adult play, but if you've forgotten how to play like a kid, my guess is that you're not maximizing the potential for enjoyment in your sex life. At least I certainly wasn't.