Perhaps no transgender issue brings out more anger than the idea of transgender women competing in athletics. This was evident again when a female transgender CrossFit athlete was told, in writing, by the CrossFit governing body that she cannot compete as a woman.
I did everything I could think of to learn how to be this man I thought I had to be. I spent a lifetime trying to get my soul to match my body. In the falsehood of that existence, I was unable to participate in life.
Manhood is an accomplishment, an internal need and quest, for both cis and trans men. When we acknowledge this, the necessity and intelligibilty of questions like "But how do you know?" fades away. Seeing this will help dismantle one of the structuring cultural approaches to transgender people: mistrust.
Before we rush into what I like to call "premature self-congratulation" -- patting ourselves on the back at our own tolerance -- let's pause for a moment and put things in perspective.
So, maybe nobody in your immediate family is LGBT, or in your group of friends, or at your church, but there are thousands and thousands of us like you. Our stomachs know butterflies and our hearts know love, just not for a person of the other sex.
Recently, a large-scale study on the demographics of marriage equality came out. Some of the data in it was pretty much in line with what other polls are saying. However, with the vast amount of data collected, some things just struck me outright as weird.
Eight months ago I pulled a bra out of the washing machine for the first time since breaking up with my college girlfriend and loudly coming out of the closet as a gay man a decade earlier. This bra belonged to someone I would have called my boyfriend a week earlier, before she came out to me as a transgender woman.
I can't remember the day I learned that transgender people were still banned from serving in the United States military. But I do know I met that fact with shock. How shortsighted of me to not consider them in our work. Why had I not known this before?
"Gender binary" describes our current belief system that gender exists as only male or female. There are, in fact, many more genders, and this post highlights the five areas that are most challenging to those who identify outside of the gender binary.
I've been an ad guy for almost 20 years, so I know how it works. The more over-the-top and provocative, the more attention the ad gets. I feared your campaign would be sensationalized in order to push the envelope like the Benetton ads of yore.
I deserve to have someone(s) in my life that is EXCITED to hold my hand and maybe even, gasp, KISS me in public. ('cause I'm kind of awesome.)
These youth know how difficult the task at hand is. Understanding what it means to be transgender is new for many people in our society and can be confusing. That's not surprising, because many people are unaware of the issues transgender people face.
Some of those who stood on the outside saw it as a gathering of women rising up against men. Those who experienced the inside saw a gathering of women and men who cried and laughed and hugged each other, who shared pain and suffering so that others might not feel so alone.
Imagine my surprise when I realized that several of my treasured workout songs are sung by a woman I first met at a meeting to plan a trans visibility action.
Humanists and other secular-minded people of every level need to understand that "isms" like sexism and racism don't go away just because we identify as atheists or humanists. We need to unpack our privileges and cultural baggage in order to stop discriminatory behavior.