LGBT and progressive groups from around the nation outspent the opposition and brought in political leaders and celebrities in support of the ordinance. But it was the conservatives, armed with their hard-hitting "bathroom campaign" and religious liberty rhetoric who resonated with voters.
Bathrooms are important. We all need them, and perhaps that is part of the reason bathrooms become central in conservative Christian challenges to civil rights around issues of gender. Bathrooms level the playing field. As my mother used to say, "Everybody has to go."
There are four ways to change the legal framework that transgender people live under: legislation, ballots, case law, and policy changes. The sooner we stop wasting our time tilting at legislative and ballot windmills, the better.
This is by no means a complete list. Most transgender deaths are unreported or lost due to misgendering.
Sometimes we just need to sit and listen to others who have some of the same -- but not all the same -- types of experiences that we do.
For too long masculine-presenting women, genderqueer people and transmen had to search for clothes in men's and boys departments, where all the clothes were cut to fashion industry norms of a male body: The shoulders drooped, the arms dangled, the chests and hips just didn't work.
They walk among us--those agents of change. Sometimes, we just need to be reminded of who they are. Take note of five noteworthy women who are making a positive difference.
Once you get beyond bigotry, prejudice and religious hostility, you're left mired in ignorance. And ignorance, at best, leads to at least a period of awkwardness before there can be understanding, and then acceptance.
After nearly 6 years of fighting, my life has changed again with just one order.
The first time I ever heard of Jessica Lynn, I was sitting down in a small recording studio at the base of UCSB's Storke Tower. She seemed like a mythical figure. An amazing woman who'd overcome the war trenches of life to emerge a shining beacon for the Trans community.
One of the most mind-blowing parts of my medical transition didn't happen on the surgeons' slab. It didn't happen on the other side of a needle. It didn't happen when I changed my name. Nope. It happened while I was sitting on my couch and watching The Biggest Loser with my roommate.
It's easy to say it's "just a costume," and at the end of the night, you can take it off. But we can't take off our transness, and we will continue having to live with the consequences of the subtle, casual hatred your costume embodies.
For trans people the difference between the parties is very clear, but on the surface, based on the Democratic CNN debate, one might not know how stark the difference is between Democrats and Republicans.
There my face was, with no hair to frame it. And I looked just fine. That was the start of it all. That was my marked moment, when I figured out that what people say I should look like and how I actually want to look are mutually exclusive.
It is getting better, but it might not be good enough for any given individual just yet. The optimism of children and adolescents is understandable, but even when you find community on the internet you cannot simply assume that your parents and peers will support you.
I have long since learned that fitting in for a kid (or adult) doesn't mean being the same as everyone else. It means being accepted for who you are.