There are people who have a talent for sticking their foot in their mouth and those who just don't care what they say. Words are either gifts or weapons and I strive to keep what comes out of my mouth to be a gift. However, it's impossible to live as long as I have and not occasionally say something I regret.
Below are a series of questions about some of the controlling behaviors you may have experienced. (For a more complete list, please click here). Unhealthy domination by a partner is called coercive control. It's more than just occasional nastiness or bossiness -- it affects several areas of your life and causes you to change your behavior to keep the peace.
Coercive control is a strategy some people use to dominate their intimate partners and get their way. It usually includes some combination of isolation, degradation, micromanagement, manipulation, stalking, physical abuse, sexual coercion, threats, and punishment. Not all of these tactics are always present.
For me, forgiveness was a decision to stop suffering, to put down a burden that didn't serve me. When I faced and accepted the truth of the past, only then could I see that I'd survived the horror. Only then could I feel my uncensored anger and disappointment and sorrow, and my mother's toxic denial and terror -- along with her love, and her regret.