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Verbal Abuse

Bad Mom’s Series: What You Say Can Be Harming Your Child

Tameka Anderson | Posted 08.22.2016 | Parents
Tameka Anderson

“Oh my goodness! I am the worse mom on the face of the planet!” I said crying into the phone as I called one of my friends. “Well first of all c...

5 Words You Should Never Say To Your Grandchild

Teresa Kindred | Posted 06.25.2016 | Fifty
Teresa Kindred

There are people who have a talent for sticking their foot in their mouth and those who just don't care what they say. Words are either gifts or weapons and I strive to keep what comes out of my mouth to be a gift. However, it's impossible to live as long as I have and not occasionally say something I regret.

Gaslighting = Emotional Abuse

Elaine Williams | Posted 03.18.2016 | Women
Elaine Williams

Verbal and emotional abuse is trickier and more of a way to mess with your head. It's confusing. It all takes time and energy and love and support to heal from it.

What Does Bullying Look Like?

Signe Whitson | Posted 02.17.2016 | Parents
Signe Whitson

After teaching the differences between rude, mean, and bullying behaviors to students, I empower them further by helping them recognize the four most common types of bullying and talking to them about the everyday ways they see each type occurring among their peers.

Who You Calling a Bitch?

Terri Linton | Posted 01.20.2016 | Divorce
Terri Linton

The mother of your child is not your enemy. Even when she makes you feel like she is. She is your ally in the most important mission of your life--the successful rearing of your child. So before you think to berate her in front of the watchful eyes of the world, remember this.

Micromanaging Every Move: Inside a Coercive Control Relationship

Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD | Posted 11.03.2015 | Women
Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD

Coercive Control is not about one partner simply being "bossy" or "a nag;" it's about domination. Controlling people often micromanage their partners' everyday life -- restricting their activities and planning their time with a detailed schedule.

Are YOU Sleeping Next to C.R.A.Z.Y.? A 6-Figure Battered Wife Speaks Out

Apryl Beverly | Posted 11.03.2015 | Women
Apryl Beverly

Like many successful career woman, Mercer thought that if she did everything her husband asked and didn't "get out of pocket" that she could "fix" her marriage. But she couldn't.

Signs Your Partner Is Too Controlling

Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD | Posted 07.21.2016 | Women
Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD

Below are a series of questions about some of the controlling behaviors you may have experienced. (For a more complete list, please click here). Unhealthy domination by a partner is called coercive control. It's more than just occasional nastiness or bossiness -- it affects several areas of your life and causes you to change your behavior to keep the peace.

Confronting Coercive Control in Queer Couples

Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD | Posted 06.19.2016 | Queer Voices
Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD

Only straight, cisgender* women are isolated, manipulated, emotionally abused, stalked, micromanaged, sexually coerced, and physically abused by their partners, right? Ah, no.

Recovering From a Controlling Relationship: Free at Last!

Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD | Posted 06.12.2016 | Women
Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD

It is natural to feel regret from time to time, but try to look ahead and not behind. You can look forward to a fulfilling life after ending your coercive control relationship. Recovery does not happen overnight, but it happens.

It Felt Like Love (But it Was Coercive Control)

Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD | Posted 06.10.2016 | Women
Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD

Coercive control is a strategy some people use to dominate their intimate partners and get their way. It usually includes some combination of isolation, degradation, micromanagement, manipulation, stalking, physical abuse, sexual coercion, threats, and punishment. Not all of these tactics are always present.

20-Year-Old Describes How She Says Her Boyfriend Has Degraded Her

Posted 03.10.2015 | Dr. Phil

Matt and Ilene have been together for nearly two years, during which time they had a now 1-year-old son and have another baby on the way. But their re...

What I Learned From Talking Back To Men

Ravishly | Posted 12.27.2014 | Women
Ravishly

He didn't spike my drink. He didn't even touch me. But for some reason, this messed with my head just as much, if not more, than other, more dire incidents of harassment that I have been involved in

5 Myths About Domestic Violence

Ellen Hendriksen, Ph.D. | Posted 12.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Ellen Hendriksen, Ph.D.

To be sure, many men who hit or emotionally abuse their partners were themselves abused as kids, but many men have also risen above their brutal childhoods and broken that cycle. Being abused doesn't automatically make you an abuser.

Here Is Powerful Proof That Abusive Words Are Literally Weapons

The Huffington Post | Cate Matthews | Posted 09.19.2014 | Impact

Whoever first claimed that "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me" was very, very wrong. To illustrate this fact, "Word...

Domestic Violence 101 and UROK Survival Kit

Tanya Young Williams | Posted 11.18.2014 | Women
Tanya Young Williams

Now that we, the advocates for domestic violence awareness and eradication, have the country's attention, it is important to expand the conversation from mere awareness to include education.

Powerful Images Show A World Where Verbal Abuse Leaves Physical Scars

The Huffington Post | Tyler McCarthy | Posted 05.22.2014 | Impact

What if verbal abuse left the same scars as physical abuse? Would it be taken more seriously? That’s what photographer Richard Johnson hopes to acco...

I Was Taught That Divorce Was An Unforgivable Sin -- But I Did It Anyway

Posted 04.28.2014 | Divorce

By Blackberry Wine for DivorcedMoms.com I was raised in a deeply religious home. Divorce was sin in every situation. I remember a family in our chu...

Forgiving My Mother

Tracy Strauss | Posted 01.23.2014 | Women
Tracy Strauss

For me, forgiveness was a decision to stop suffering, to put down a burden that didn't serve me. When I faced and accepted the truth of the past, only then could I see that I'd survived the horror. Only then could I feel my uncensored anger and disappointment and sorrow, and my mother's toxic denial and terror -- along with her love, and her regret.

Let's Put the 'Youth' Back in Youth Sports

Ken Reed | Posted 01.23.2014 | Sports
Ken Reed

Let's relax, and more importantly, let our kids relax. Research shows that nearly 80 percent of all children who play adult-organized youth sports drop out by the time they're 12. The reason most often cited is that it's no longer fun.

6 Serious Signs It's Time To End Your Relationship

Jill Knapp | Posted 06.18.2013 | Women
Jill Knapp

We all compromise -- a concert of a band we don't like here, a restaurant we could do without there -- but make sure you aren't changing to the point where you don't recognize the person you're becoming

WATCH: How 'Gaslighting' Ruined My Relationship

Posted 12.03.2012 | HuffPost Live 321

'Gaslighting' is a form of verbal abuse where false information is given to a partner to make them doubt their own memory. Guest Natalie P. talked abo...

Bullying the Bullies: The Public Defense of Karen Klein

Dr. Gregory Jantz, Ph.D. | Posted 08.28.2012 | Healthy Living
Dr. Gregory Jantz, Ph.D.

Why are we collectively so quick to judge? How can people be so wrong when trying to do something right? The answer is, as people, we are hard-wired to jump to conclusions, whether those conclusions are accurate or not.

They Said WHAT to You?

Linda Durnell | Posted 06.02.2012 | Women
Linda Durnell

I was seventeen when a man came up to me and said, "You know, you would be attractive if your nose would stop growing." A comment he would likely not recall making today, yet they stung me.

The Reality of Reality TV

Amanda Espitia | Posted 04.14.2012 | Chicago
Amanda Espitia

Reality TV has become a major part of our culture. On one hand, they are fun, entertaining and introduce me to new worlds. But then there is the more disconcerting side of reality TV.