I was considered the radical Catholic for being sexually abstinent, being pro-life, and attending church weekly. This was especially true in college. So I figured that I was just about the only person, and pretty much the only Catholic, who was abstaining from sexual relations from marriage, and I resigned myself to being a lifelong virgin.
I often hear this question, spoken with anguish, in my office. It's not the real question being asked, but it's the one that's easiest to pose. The short answer is "no." You can't take it back so listen to yourself, think about what kind of experience you would really like, and don't worry how many virgins are wandering around campus.
Here's a shocker: Virginity is cooler than it used to be among teens and young adults. At least that's what entertainment giant MTV, creator of Teen Mom and 16 and Pregnant, is hoping as it aired this week the first of a series called Virgin Territory featuring 15 young women and men in their late teens and early 20s who haven't had sex.
Yesterday I read an article in which Chris Brown discussed the age at which he lost his virginity. He was 8, he says, and the girl was 14 or 15. Sex at age eight is rape, especially given the fact that the girl involved was significantly older, a teenager. The worst part? This isn't the first time I've heard this from a man.