There are plenty of other people in this world who are as miserable as you are right now.
If you want to know what your values are, just look at your own life. Your life looks like your values. A lot of us think we have higher or spiritual values, but those values are not necessarily reflected in our so-called personal lives.
Sometimes we have completely unrealistic expectations of ourselves and the way we idealize that everything should be. If we can just roll with it all, focus our energy on what brings us the most joy, and keep our expectations realistic... accepting what "is," then, we will have the happiest holidays ever.
A little over two years ago, my life began to implode. I found myself confronting issues that I had been trying to suppress for years. It wasn't drug addiction or alcoholism, nor was it depression or abuse. I was struggling with the complications of living with a neuromuscular disorder.
Inspiration comes in strange ways. Two weeks ago at Mass, I arrived to find our great big sanctuary packed with people of all ages, including the scho...
When you're grappling with a problem or lacking clarity, learn to lean into your soul and trust the wisdom it provides to you -- often in the form of a gut feeling, serendipitous sign or a spontaneous "aha!" moment.
I don't think I would have had the time to study what I've always wanted, start my own business, travel the world, give lectures in lots of different places and publish a children's book, without knowing that the most limited thing I've got is my time here on earth.
Once you see where you're shape-shifting to satisfy your ideas about other peoples' desires, you get the awareness that your reality is made up of choices that you are making, not someone else. The beautiful, liberating news is that you are free to choose again.
For most people family relationships are the most challenging in our lives, so it's not surprising that if we are in a place of profound loss and vulnerability then spending time with family members at Christmas may trigger some complex emotional responses.
I watched nine people die this year. Nine people who weren't news stories or dots connected by degrees of separation. Nine people who weren't just friends of friends of friends. They were people I loved.
Whatever your story is, this is a time where we either learn about consumerism, or the magic of a holiday Season that can reconnect us with our humanity--with what it means to give and receive.
If someone has treated us badly, an inability to forgive will cause the situation to return to our mind again and again, each time loaded with intense emotions that can eat away at our own inner well-being. It is important to remember that forgiveness doesn't mean that we are condoning something that wasn't all right.
Soul Doctor has an important message--that one person can make a difference, a huge difference in the world. That in itself is worth being reminded. The fact that the difference could be bringing more love, peace and acceptance into our chaotic world.
Sometimes you just need to know that you can do it. That you already have all the knowledge, tools, skills, and abilities to begin (and often achieve) your goals. Sometimes you just need someone beside you who will offer what you need rather than what you want.
Personally, I find this message quite refreshing -- one that cuts to the chase in today's multi-tracking, information-overloaded world. Here is someone not claiming to have the answer, but boldly asserting that we all have the answer.
There are no heroes, only survivors. There are no medals or merit badges dangling from our chests. A life well lived is its own reward. Many have families, living with the same obligations as everybody else. There is an additional pressure point for us.