Words have power. They can be used to create or destroy. Used unconsciously they can bring unwanted experiences. However, when words are spoken with purpose and precision they pave the way for your dreams to become real.
So, what are your dreams? What is most important to you? If you could create or experience anything, what would it be? Is it freedom? Happiness? Fulfilling work that produces prosperity? Do you crave intimacy, a powerful partnership, genuine love, or all of the above? Do you want to resolve a persistent problem? Or perhaps stop settling for less? Consider - What do you really want? Are you inspired to be healthy and fit? Do you wish to evolve into a wiser and more loving parent? Are you motivated to build community? Travel? Explore? Make a difference?
What if you knew that right now you have the power to summon the materialization of your deepest aspirations and more? By choosing words wisely you can accomplish what you want!
Many of the most renowned people in history carefully chose their words and fueled them with clear intent to achieve a vision. Our nation's forefathers declared unequivocally the inalienable rights of freedom and independence when they said all men are created equal. Even though the word "men" had different meanings at the time, this language became the platform from which we evolved. Martin Luther King Jr. wielded the words "I have a dream" to realize his vision. Eleanor Roosevelt encouraged people to "believe in the beauty of their dreams." Walt Disney imagined "the happiest place on earth." These wise ones used words to uplift our collective reality. What are you speaking into existence?
Words matter because they materialize as matter. Words can transform challenges into opportunities. They can be used to gather information and clarify meaning, which open lines of communication allowing you to discover and understand another's map of the world. In my new book, Supreme Influence: Change Your Life with the Power of the Language You Use, I teach readers in depth how to command words to create reality on purpose.
How you wield your words will determine the response that you get - in business and in daily life. And it's not just the words you speak - it's the intent fueling your words, and the way you frame the language you choose that will determine whether you elicit resistance or accord.
Your power to achieve goals is intrinsically linked to your ability to develop relationships, which will reflect the quality of your communication. How you relate with others mirrors the relationship you have with yourself. By integrating the wisdom illuminated herein you will empower yourself to succeed and elevate the quality of every relationship in your life. These insights will support you in communicating with authority in an honorable way that inspires brilliance - and this - is the key to "getting what you want."
The corresponding images were created by Kathy Klingaman (www.klingamancreative.com).
Be clear on your intent. Clarity is power. Before you begin each day or prior to entering a meeting, ask – what is my intent? What is my ultimate outcome? How will I know when I realize it? What will I see, hear, and feel that lets me know I’ve achieved it? It’s not merely the words you use when communicating with others, but more importantly the ones you use when communicating with yourself that determines your results. Be clear on what you want rather than what you don’t want. Then take purposeful action toward your goal without attachment to how it shows up. Without clear intent you can get lost, derailed, or waste time.
Evoke empowered states. The words “think of a time” have power to summon states. Suppose you are in a funk. Instead of looping the problem, you can think of a specific time when you accomplished something that inspired you. Go back to that time in your mind, as if it’s happening now! Notice what you see, hear, and feel. Allow a moment to access the memory, which reintegrates the empowered state. Breathe the way that you were breathing; feel the feelings of accomplishment. And be in that feeling for a moment. Now think of a specific time in the future where being in this empowered state will be valuable to you, and bring these resources into that moment.
Paint a picture. You create with the pictures in your mind. Albert Einstein said, “Imagination is more important than knowledge.” Every great artist, every champion athlete, every visionary imagines successful results accomplished in advance, then steps into their imaginings. Your power to create cannot exceed your ability to vividly imagine your dreams as real. Therefore imagine! See what you want in your mind’s eye. Make the image big, bright, crisp and clear. Enrich the colors. Step into the picture and look out through your own eyes as if it’s happening now.
Gather information; create understanding. Have you ever felt certain that you communicated clearly – yet the other person received a different message than the one you intended to convey? George Bernard Shaw said, “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” Master communicators know how to uncover the deeper meaning beyond words. They use questions like, “How do you mean?” as a tool to more clearly understand another’s mindscape. Suppose it’s your wedding anniversary and your spouse says, “Honey, let’s do something really romantic tonight.” Instead of assuming you know precisely what your beloved desires, and risk missing the mark, you could ask, “Darling, how do you mean?” Then listen for insights.
Replacing “but” with “and” dissolves resistance. The word “But” negates. If someone says, “I love you, but I need you to call if you’ll be late” The word but invalidates what precedes it. Used unconsciously, this word can create disharmony. Therefore be sure that when using “but” you do so purposefully. If your child is learning something new and feels uncertain, you can say, “I know this is new, but you’re a fast learner and you have the ability to succeed.” All words can be useful in some context. Unless you intend to negate, it’s wiser to use the word “And.” The simple shift to – I love you and I would appreciate a call if you’re running late – transforms everything! “And” evokes unity.
“Try”…“Need.” The challenge with the word “try” occurs when it’s used in the context of achieving a goal, or making a decision. Trying creates conditions for mediocrity. If the VP of Sales says he will “try” to achieve the quarterly quota, there’s a problem. Here the word “try” introduces the possibility of defeat in advance, making failure more likely. Also beware of the word “need” because it presupposes absence or lack. There’s a big difference between saying, “I need to lose weight” versus “I am inspired to be fit.”
That which you speak after the words "I Am" will be. What do you say after the words I Am? The words you choose influence how you see yourself, how others see you, and what’s possible for you. Get curious. Do you say things that disempower or empower you? Do you say, “I’m stressed, I’m bored, I’m tired, I’m broke, I’m alone?” Or, “I am centered. I am inspired. I am focused. I am clear. I am ready. I am grateful.” When you use the words I Am, you invoke your power to create. These words are potent! Be aware of what you link them to. The thing you’re claiming has a way of reaching back and claiming you.
When silence speaks louder than words. If you talk too much you give away your power. It’s not authentic to say whatever you want – it’s undisciplined! On the other hand, if you speak too little, you don’t honor your truth. Balancing speech and silence is essential! Silence gives words their weight. Without it communication is noise. Imagine playing all keys on the piano simultaneously. There’d be no rhythm, harmony, or accentuation of a single, beautiful sound. It would be...chaos! The space between notes makes music. The virtuosos don’t just play notes. They play silence, feeling cadences, hearing fullness in the emptiness. Imagine what could happen in your life when you honor silence, and only speak what you intend to create.