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Nora Ephron

Nora Ephron

Posted: September 27, 2008 12:42 AM

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There was a moment, when the debate ended and the wives came up on stage, where I actually knew, or thought I knew, who had won. I'm sorry to say it, but it was John McCain. McCain had come into the debate having spent the week as the King of the Loose Screws, but he got through the night without a sign of his irrational behavior, and that seemed like a big win for him.

I was, by the way, the least pessimistic person in the room where we watched the debate, a room full of blue-state pinkos, and our hearts had collectively sunk as we watched Obama miss opportunity after opportunity to score a knockout punch -- as the men in the room tended to put it. (Women are at a decided disadvantage in conversations of this sort: we have no interest whatsoever in the resemblance of presidential candidates to people like Rocky Marciano and Archie Moore.) Because everyone in the room was so depressed and simultaneously full of manly boxing references, I felt guilty even mentioning my concerns about Obama's shirt, which was too loose around his neck, and which was another reason why I thought he had lost the debate -- that, along with his incredibly irritating habit of closing his eyes while standing up.

Anyway, as I say, the impression that McCain had won lasted about a minute, when we began flipping through the stations expecting all our fears to be validated by the dozens of commentators ready to offer their views. To our amazement, the only overlap between our room and the pundits were the boxing references. Obama had won. Even the people who thought McCain had won more rounds than Obama thought Obama had won. McCain had been patronizing. He'd referred to Pakistan as a failed state, which turned out to be untrue. Even Charles Krauthammer thought Obama had done fine. A focus group of undecided voters in Nevada on the Fox Channel (Fox!) had responded more positively to Obama than to McCain.

Could this possibly be true? I don't know. But I decided to do the only thing I could under the circumstances: stop watching the pundits on television for fear it would all change again. They will be on all night discussing the heavyweight championship of the world, but I am going to sleep.



Read more reactions to the first presidential debate from HuffPost bloggers, including Bob Shrum, Madeleine Albright, Paul Reiser, Arianna Huffington, Sean Penn, Sheryl Crow, and more.



 
 
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chiara12
10:45 PM on 09/28/2008
What I realized after watching the debate, after listening to pundits proclaim it a draw while focus groups validated an Obama win, was that the purpose of the debate was not to win over appease those of us who already support Barack Obama. The purpose was to show the undecided or Independant voters that Barack Obama is ready to be Commander In Chief. That was his test and he met it.

There were times in which I questioned why he didn't throw the truth back in McCain's face.
Particularly when John McCain brought up how much he loves Veterans and how they know that he will take care of them. It made me sick. I thought, Obama knows McCain's horrible record on supporting veterans, why isn't he hitting him with that? He could squash him like a bug. In reality, that would have turned off those undecided and Independant voters. It is Obama's ardent supporters who would love to see McCain ripped apart for his lies, but not those swing voters, and it is those voters that he needs to win.


As much as we would like to see some fists fly, his instincts have been right much of the time and he has stayed true to who he is. We should trust that he and his team know what they are doing. They see the war not just the battle and if we let them play out their strategy and trust them WE will most likely win the war.
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innerealm
03:56 PM on 09/30/2008
An excellent post. You bring things back to the task at hand. This is the reason I read the posts. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
10:26 PM on 09/28/2008
They both failed to win over the undecided voters. McCain was typical, and Obama was passive and missed so many opportunities to deliver a knock out punch that I couldn't help but scream.

On the bail-out, they both were weak. As the debate addressed the economy in general, Obama was stronger.....On Iraq, Georgia and Iran McCain seemed more decisive and assured in his positions so regardless of whether you agree with him or not, he came across stronger.

The pundits are the pundits, they over rated Obama's performances in the primary debates as well.
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MizFlagPin
Standing for Truth, Justice, & the American Way
09:57 PM on 09/28/2008
Maybe it was the lense through which you and your friends watched the debate.

You noticed O's shirt but not JMc snorting (2x) like he was hyperventilating from barely contained anger and contempt.

How could you not hear O's command of knowledge about world affairs or how well he articulated what needs to be done at home? How could you miss JMc regurgitated stump messages on critical issues?
09:50 PM on 09/28/2008
You totally misread the whole event. McCain blew it. He could have gone after the center vote and have created a real threat to Obama. Instead he endlessly repeated boneheaded GOP campaign rally talking points, which work well in front of the faithful but which don't when the opponent is in the room. He kept harping that "Sen. Obama doesn't understand..." but clearly Obama understands just fine. It was the wrong tactic - play to the idiotic base - instead of fighting for centrist votes. Most viewers understood that McCain had wrecked his chance to win thoughtful voters, while Ms. Ephron was focused on Obama's shirt.
Obama came across as confident, well-spoken, thoughtful and informed. McCain came across as an unconvincing fearmonger. Score a win for Obama!
11:01 PM on 09/28/2008
I was very irritated when McCain kept saying, "Sen. Obama doesn't understand" but I wanted Obama to say something like....a difference of opinion with you doesn't connote lack of understanding...something, anything....I wish Obama had said something.
09:32 PM on 09/28/2008
I watched with two friends. All three of us are rabid Obama fans, but the two of them came in expecting Obama to crush McCain, and at the end they thought McCain had won. I came in expecting McCain to win, as I had watched McCain in previous debates and this being about foreign policy, and I thought that on substance, it was a tie with Obama closing stronger, but that the overall impression was better for Obama (calm and dignified vs. angry and nostalgic).

In our case, expectation going in made all the difference.
09:30 PM on 09/28/2008
I felt the same way. Hopefully the media isn't getting our hopes up about this like they did for McCain supporters when he brought out Sarah Palin. =\
09:22 PM on 09/28/2008
As for the point McCain tried to make regarding the bracelet and request from the mother of Mathew Stanley, it and his willingness to accept her position was flawed. Her point of view is understandable, but his as a potential commander in chief is not.

Anyone who has lost a loved one looks for a greater meaning to explain it, be it their "God's will" or some other greater purpose. The war in Iraq was unnecessary. It was a flawed strategy. The Bush administration offered many and various rationales for going to war and continuing to wage it (WMD, Iraqi freedom, "War on Terror" etc.)

It is unfortunate in the extreme that our service people lost their lives or were grievously injured in the line of duty. They served our Nation and each other with honor. That honor cannot be taken away based upon the ultimate outcome of the war. It is a mistake though to think that their sacrifice justifies the continued sacrifice of others for a war without justification.
09:17 PM on 09/28/2008
Regarding McCain's comments "we won't come home in defeat and dishonor."

McCain misunderstands the concept of honor. Those who answered our Nation's call, whether or not they were killed in action, by definition were honorable, regardless of victory, draw, or defeat. McCain's comments about the Vietnam War are telling, by associating defeat with dishonor.

His constant invocation and self attribution of the word honor with his own actions lead me to believe McCain's experience during and post Vietnam War has warped his perspective. The war he served in was unpopular, and ultimately unsuccessful. Perhaps because of his tremendous personal sacrifice as a POW, that tarnishes his sense of honor in his mind and tries to make up for it by doing things he sees are honorable (which is seems to be from his perspective just about anything he does.)

Refer to his own words about the Iraq War, ". . . we won't come home in defeat and dishonor. . .". It seems to me he qualifies honor with military victory. Did the Marines in Lebanon die without honor? Or the soldiers in Somalia?
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notb observer
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10:56 PM on 09/28/2008
You make some good points ! I am coming to suspect that McCain never got over Vietnam... One would expect a 72 year old man who has lived through what he has to be much more interested in stopping wars than starting them... I have talked to many WWII vets, and most of these true heroes are gentle and compassionate souls who have come to despise the idea of war, considering it a last resort. Based on their own experience, they realize that it's very nasty business with a lifelong impact on the soldier's life after the fact. Although they are quietly proud, they are rarely belligerent. I would have hoped that McCain, with his POW experience and his 26 years in the senate would have become "a wise elder statesman", but in his demeanor, rhetoric and stubbornness I see a man stuck in his early 20s, angry for having been humiliated in Vietnam. He seems far too eager to commit young lives and national treasure to battle. Interestingly, I don't know if I've ever heard him utter the words "war as a last resort"... He apparently fails to grasp the fact the the president's responsibilities are far more diverse than simply CinC. His lack of experience in economic matters, and his legendary temper have blinded him to alternative avenues of foreign policy. He never should have left the military, and, save for his family name, I doubt he would have fared well in that career.
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stagebandman
I try to be nice....
09:08 PM on 09/28/2008
My wife and I were in the same boat, but I figure that because we have been paying attention for the last year, there weren't any big revelations for us. But for someone who has not been listening to what Obama has been saying, or reading his positions, this was new territory, and a great way to be introduced to what the Senator stands for. Newbies were forced to listen this time, without the usual rhetoric, or anti-liberal bias that is so prominent most places he is discussed. What they saw was a man who looked presidential. And the tell at the end, for me, was when Obama went up to McCain, extended his hand, and congratulated him on a "good job". That was the most impressive moment of the whole thing. The man exudes class.
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Stormchaser44
Writer searching for truth
08:56 PM on 09/28/2008
Nora just because a "change" candidate doesn't play the same war-styled debate tactics doesn't mean he lost the debate. Debating as a war metaphor is arcane at best and really a disservice to the audience who wants to get information.
08:51 PM on 09/28/2008
"...he got through the night without a sign of his irrational behavior..."
How about when he muttered "horseshit" under his breath, TWICE. Look for it in the section where Obama questions McCain's recent behavior to the president of Spain.
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CarolW2
Music can change the world.
09:46 PM on 09/28/2008
Really?? I want to go back and check that out. I have a question for everyone here: Did anyone else hear and understand McCain's reference to North Koreans in that they are 3 inches shorter? Did I really hear McCain say that? And if so, what in the world was he talking about?
12:14 AM on 09/29/2008
I heard both ("horseshit" and the 3 inches shorter comment). I think his point was that Kim Jong Il (the North Korean dictator) is such a despot that he is starving his people - they are stunted for lack of sufficient nutrition...

McCain was surprisingly lucid and came off much better than I expected. Still a sorry display but not to his usual low standard....
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notb observer
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01:18 AM on 09/29/2008
Can't say that I heard it... Maybe you heard him incorrectly. I'm pretty sure that if he had said something like that, it would have been picked up and mentioned at least somewhere on the blogsosphere if not the national media...
08:39 PM on 09/28/2008
In case you haven't seen it yet, here is a website that allows you to estimate your tax burden under Obama's and McCain's tax plans. Of course the reality may be different, but this does give an indication of where their priorities are.

http://www.electiontaxes.com/
08:54 PM on 09/28/2008
Thanks for the link. I will fwd it to everyone I know. McCain's tax plan leaves my household, my sister's, my mother's and my mother-in-law's household with NO tax refund.
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08:35 PM on 09/28/2008
Didn't McCain get strategy and tactics mixed up. I would call the surge a tactic. Yet when Obama called it a tactic McCain belittled him. Can anyone enlighten me?
DIdaho
Born in the Air Force (Texas), moved to Idaho in 1
09:53 PM on 09/28/2008
You're right. McCain got it wrong. Anybody who studies military science will know that. A strategy is an over-arching idea, such as fighting Germany first and then Japan in World War II. In the case of Iraq, the strategy is to establish a representative government to whom to turn over the government so we can end the occupation. The surge is one fairly small tactic within that stategy.

What was interesting about McCain is not just that he was wrong, but that he was so dismissive of Obama for being right. One of the little things that made it Obama's night. I agree, for junkies who've followed this for months, Obama did miss a lot of punches. But for those just becoming engaged, he did fine - and McCain did okay, but he did have his curmudgeon moments.

I love that McCain's spinmeisters pointed to Obama's saying John's right, or I agree with John, as signs of Obama's weakness. This from the ones who say they'll reach across the aisle to find agreement.
10:15 PM on 09/28/2008
Obama did the fact check on his web site and cited Bush with the Surge being TACTICAL.
08:13 PM on 09/28/2008
Nora, he lost me when he couldn't look at Obama. IF you can't look at your opponent in a PRESIDENTIAL debate, how can you work with world leaders?
08:03 PM on 09/28/2008
The undecideds are people who have lingering doubts about Obama's presidential caliber. He helped put those doubts to rest with this group in the first debate by his poise, by his grasp of facts and issues, and by his presidential stature. You could watch him and envision him as President, which is exactly what he needed to do. To come out swinging and wrestle with an elderly war hero was not what he needed to do.
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shela88
Cat Lover & Proud Californian
08:42 PM on 09/28/2008
"To come out swinging and wrestle with an elderly war hero was not what he needed to do."

I agree completely! I have been speaking and writing about this very point. McCain is an elderly man who was in the military and was a POW. He goes in with an advantage right there, Obama is instinctively a very polite man. You can almost hear a voice from his childhood telling him to have respect for his elders and for women . He has taken the high road with McCain as he did with Hillary and he is the man we want to represent us at home and in the world.